I want her back but she is offering only friendship at the moment. Some people say once this happens this is all you'll get but I'm not so sure. I mean we were friends then lovers before so what's to stop it happening again?
I know her well, know what makes her laugh and what flicks her buttons. I can be charming but tease her and wind her up in equal measures. I know their is still chemistry their. My question is should I start from the beginning and win her over like I did before. Is this possible? I'm not kidding myself when I say the attraction is still their but I'm not so sure the trust is yet?
Should I tell her my intentions or act like friendship is all I want too. I'm inclined to say the second choice so she thinks their are no preconceptions to our 'friendship'.
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The more you try and win her back, the further away you will be pushing her.
Something some people fail to realize (and I am guilty of this) is if someone wants to be with you, they will be with you. If someone wants to be friends, they will be friends.
Obviously I don't know the reasoning behind the break up, but by the sounds of it, she broke up with you and you still want her back. I've seen this happen so much, people trying to win their exes back by being friends, show them what they're missing etc. It doesn't work. Well, maybe it does sometimes but don't hold onto that.
From a girl's point of view, I couldn't bare being friends with a guy I was in love with, I'd rather not speak to them at all. She clearly just wants friendship from you and/or is using you as a back up in case she decides she wants you again.
By all means be friends with her if that's what you want, but don't try and win her back because seriously, it's not going to work. If she realizes what you're doing she will probably be annoyed that you are trying to get back with her when she made it clear she only wanted a friendship with you.0
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