So I have been dating this girl for around 2 months now, and I really do care about her a lot. I love spending time with her, but that's where this kicks in. Her parents treat her like she's f***ing twelve. This is the second day in a row her parents flip on her for absolutely no reason and said she can't leave the house. She gets good grades, does what she is supposed to, and is the sweetest girl you will ever meet, and her parents are way too damn hard on her. Guess what her dad's reason for not letting her leave the house today was? She didn't talk to him for 2 days after he yelled the sh*t out of her and made her cry. Yesterday in school she barely even talked to anyone cause she was so torn up about the things he said. And after telling her she couldn't leave, he yelled at her again for an hour. I
I honestly feel incredibly sorry for her, it makes me sad to think that they treat her this way for no reason sometimes. As much as I care about her, I don't think I can deal with her parents. She can rarely do anything during week days unless she tells her parents way ahead of time, and lately her parents have been making her stay in on weekends, so I barely see her out of school.
I can't help but get mad in general when her parents do this, and I don't think I can handle being with someone and seeing them this rarely. Most of my friends see their girlfriends 4-5 days a week...me, saturdays if I'm lucky.
I would feel bad breaking up with her about this though cause its not her fault, she doesn't do anything wrong...it's 100% her stupid ass dad.
Another thing is her mom tells me all the time how she's so happy that I take such good care of her daughter and that I'm so nice etc, so it isn't like her parents don't like me...I rarely talk to her dad, but when I do he puts his smile on and shows signs like he likes me...so why do they find the need to stop her from seeing me?
Anyone have any input to this cause I really have no idea what to do...sorry if this is just a bunch of random cluttered info, I am just trying to give you guys as much detail as possible.
We are both 17 by the way...and don't give me the "wait till 18" response...cause its not like your parents can't just as easily take control of you when you are 18, especially when they are paying your way through college..
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I don't think you should dump her. If she's amazing, then you should be there to support her. Value the little time that you do get to spend with her, and be there to listen to her troubles. It might be a little frustrating that you can't see her as often as you'd like to, but it doesn't mean you should just give up on her completely. As you said, this isn't her fault. Maybe when her parents see how caring you are of their daughter (dad included), they'll make an exception. If you just dump her now, the positive opinion that her mom has of you will change. And a break up this time around just isn't going to be great for her, emotionally and mentally. She has enough to cope with, don't make her feel like everyone's letting her down. Just be there for her. If you really do like her.2