Dated my ex for 3 years and he broke it off a year ago. This fall he started sending me emails saying how he missed things about us all summer but left me alone since I was taken. We start dating again since I was single and needy. 2 months later he breaks it off with me again ans starts dating this other girl he was seeing in the summer. Then 2 weeks later he emails me begging me to call him. I finally do and he doesn't really say anyting.
Is he just crawling back to me every time some other relationship doesn't work out? Or do you think he keeps realizing he loves me but since I turn him down (he's hurt me so much) he runs away again? What creates this yo-yo reactions and how do I get it to stop? So hurt, please help!
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I was in a relationship like this and you are right. It hurts! You can't keep dealing with HIS issues. they are HIS issues---and they are YOURS too as long as you are willing to participate. It sounds like he has commitment phobia. When a guy has this sort of thing, he LOVES you when you are gone but doesn't want to deal with the responsibility of handling a serious commitment and relationship in the present. There is NO future with someone like this. He may love you of course but the key is he loves you to the best of his ability. Not everyone can love in a healthy way.
this situation tore me apart and it lasted 5 years...I would say, get out of it for good...0