i've been with my girlfriend for 10 yrs,live together for the past 2 recently I snooped in her emails and found she was talking to another guy she meet on the phone. this guy is married and has a kid. the emails, some dirty some just seeing how the others day is going,and a break up one in which she dedicated the song "the promise" by tracy chapman to him and said she loved him and was glad to have met him just about made me vomit. this has been going on from feb to nov.
so I asked her about it and she lied at first,but came clean(I hope) and said they had phone sex ,and she met him 3 times on his lunch break.she kissed him once. she swears she never had sex.
so that's the story. she seems sorry for the whole thing and wishes she could take it all back. she said she wants to be with me and that I'm the one.i love her, but can I ever trust her or should I move on?
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Story, I was in a marriage once in which I thought she was faithful and four days after we got married confirmed my suspicions that they'd had an affair, said the "I love you's" and all. Up until I found out, she denied and denied it, she'd only admitted to being friends, hugging, meeting for lunch, and yes the "one kiss but nothing else ever happened". Yes she was sorry. So long story short you will NEVER trust her again, and if you do you're nuts. She did this behind your back once, then lied about it even after you had the goods on her. So you already know what you should do. Move on and find someone that will be faithful to you. Trust me when I tell you this: SHE WILL DO THIS AGAIN! sorry dude but she will if she hasn't already done it before this guy but she will do it again. It's a character flaw that some women and even men have. Do yourself a solid and move on otherwise you'll find that you are wondering if she's cheating every time something different happens or she doesn't answer her phone when you call or she late or whatever it may be. Trust is broken. That said...if you stay you have lost all bitching rights to her future cheating. Good Luck0