It has been 2 years, I've dated, socialize(d), joined clubs, go to school...live my life, but when I am alone at home, or before bed all I can think of how I miss him. :( I was the one who broke up because I did not feel he appreciated me enough, and did not want to get his life together so we can have a life together one day. We were together for over 5 years, we were best friends; we had great conversations, but our relationships was not the best. He was so laid-back compared to me. But I really miss him. :(
It really hurts. I don't know what to do to get rid of this feeling I have for him. I don't want to be with him, I miss him though; there is a void. I don't want him in my life...I was really stressed when he was with me as a boyfriend, I am so confused. I don't know what I want from him, is this normal? I cannot focus sometime...it could go on for a few days when he pops into my head...sometimes just a moment, but it's when I am not doing anything...could be for a second.
What do I dooo...:( :(
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I think you're maybe just in the wrong dating pool. If you find someone who was like your ex in the ways you liked about him, but that is opposite from him in the things you didn't like about him it would help. I know you won't be able to find someone who has all of his good qualities and none of his bad qualities, but if you could find someone that you enjoy being around more it might help. For one, don't do things with new guys that you did exclusively with your ex. Not for a while anyways. Going places and doing things you did solely with him will bring back memories of him. I am going through this too. Mine recently moved 12 hours away without even a goodbye. I have found that nights are the worst. During the day when I am busy with other stuff I don't think about him as much. When I do think of him I try to think of the bad things about him so I don't miss him as much. My problem, and it could be yours too, is that subconsiously I think he will be back. I keep thinking he will realize his mistakes and try to change and he will come back. My problem with that theory is that mine was "perfect" until he found out he had a child with another woman who is now 2 years old. He missed out on those first two years of her life because he didn't know about her. Now he is trying to make her happy by being with baby momma. I'm in a little different of a boat, but if you are thinking he may change and come back, stop it. If he has been gone for two years, it's time to move on and get on with your life. If he does come back it was meant to be. You can't dwell on the past. Staying alone might be the problem. Try having a friend over for a while at night or going out at night. The less time you have to think about him, you will find yourself thinking about him less even when you have the time. =] Hope I helped some.1
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