my ex always acts like she hates me and is kind of a bitch (sorry) sometimes. When I ask her she always says she still cares/loves me. we just had a bad breakup and I recently texted her. I want to work things out but I don't know what to do. please help!
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Wow! she sounds like me! I was with my ex for over 5 years who was also my first. Weve been broke up for almost 2 yrs. He told me we couldn't work it out, so I tried to move on. He has never stopped contacting me. I've been nothing but angry/mean towards him because I'm hurt. I figured if I hid my feelings & pushed him away I could get over him. I've talked to other guys, etc. I wouldn't give my ex the time of day, because I was so hurt. In all honesty I was a real BITCH towards him! Just like your saying your ex is doing. Recently I found out he had a girlfriend, he didn't tell me about. He said he didn't want to tell me because he still loved & had feelings for me and was afraid Id hate him. He said he thought I moved on, because I was so mean to him when he tried to talk to me. I never gave him the time & showed NO feelings. Now I've realized I was lying to myself, and him. Your ex is acting this way because she is hurt. & still loves and cares. That's why she's angry. I told my ex if he truly loved me he should have fought for me, I guess us girls want you guys to jump through fire hoops or something. But if she is in this mind frame, you may have to give her space. I'd say write her a letter, explaining your sorry you hurt her, you didn't realize what you had, and you really want to work things out. Tell her you understand why she is angry. Tell her you will give her the space she needs & to contact you when she's ready. You have to make her miss you. You can't let her know your "waiting" for her. I thought I had my ex in my pocket. I thought he was always going to be there, so I went about my business, not caring that I was hurting his feelings by talking to other guys, etc. At the same time, I wasn't listening or paying attention to his actions saying he wanted me back. Now he has a girlfriend & I WISH I told him how I really felt & what I really wanted! Now I'm stuck wishing I had him & he's in a relationship, that I'm not sure if he wants to be in. Only time will tell. I think from my experience with this, the action plan I suggested would have worked best for me. Best Wishes. Keep us updated! =)0