We started talking via facebook, then he flew to Florida like 5 times. He spent a lot of money. He is always buying me expensive stuff the best stuff ever. But things didn't start that well... I think that I was too sad and lonely that I jumped into the first guy I saw. I moved to his state (Maryland) I have a great job here (the best job ever). I interviewed for my job before I met him and I settled to go to VA but I ended up switching to MD to be close to him. He asked me to live together and because I didn't have any money I said yes. My parents thought I betrayed them because I'm from a very traditional Hispanic Home and he is an Italian/American and here in the US you live with a guy without being married and where I'm from you get married first. So as soon as I came here the problems started... I've been wanting to break up with him since the beginning but because I don't have any family here I didn't do it.
Two years has passed and John hasn't proposed to me, he is always fighting about the money, he also call me fat. I'm not a Barbie I'm Latina and we have curves. We haven't had sex in more than 7 months.
Anyway I met this Latino guy (Jose) from my job and since I met him I feel he is the one. We have been going out for like 4 months and I don't feel bad for my boyfriend. Jose brings sparkle to my life, he knows I have a boyfriend (John), but whenever we see each other we start kissing, hugging and everything is perfect. I'm moving back to FL and he requested a transfer to go to FL - but he is hard to read I don't know what he really wants... I can't ask him because I think is not fair... I'm still in a relationship with John.
I want to brake up with John but I think he still loves me and I don't want to brake his heart. But if I stay with him is because I don't wanna hurt him, because he is always helping me financially and in my job since English is not my first language he is always spell checking my work before I turned it to my Supervisor. Sometimes I think that without his help I'm not going to be able to be good at my job and is because I don't trust in myself. So I'm giving up my happiness to make him happy and is not fair for me. I live with him and everything in here belongs to him, I haven't bought anything in here. So I just have my clothes and personal stuff... I've been looking to rent an apartment and live alone with no guys and see what this new guy (Jose) can offer. Jose is 26 years old and I'm 28 years old. I don't know what to do... I need so much help... I'm always thinking in Jose, I know is not fair for John and I don't want to tell John any of this cause I will break his heart.
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I wish I could write something you would like better than the following:
1. move back home and live with parents for a time while you get a new job and life back
2. save up for your own apartment, seek out social networks, dancing, church, family events
3. either Jose will follow you or someone else will appreciate you enough to be your new one & only
John cares enough for you to understand that you need to take a break from this lifestyle and renew ties/values with your family. It's too big a struggle in this city, he'll have to agree - after lending so much time/support. Promise to write.0