i had been in relationship for few months then we broke and after 1 and 1/2 year we got back,because he understood me and trusted me more than any one I suppose,when we recently broke he got back with his EX ,one who deceived and manipulated him.he himself told that he was lost when he was with her,and told me to what extent she manipulated him.later, few days before we broke he started praising her.after we broke we remained friends for few days,he asked me to sleep with him,i scolded him,later when I looked back and rewinded previous things I understood that it is she with whom he got back,i was really scared for him,because it was a trap she did.even his family was against of this ,i thought I shouldn't get into all this.but I checked our previous messages,where I got to realize I hurt him when he was expecting support from me.so ,i felt guilty and also I felt strong gut feel that something wrong may happen to him.so I was badly scared for him,so I messaged his brother hiding my identity,that he is back with this gal,but still he got to knew that it was me.he asked me,first I denied but later I accepted,now he is mad at me,he deleted me from all socializing sites.he is not answering my calls.he is very badly mad at me.what do I do to make him understand my good intentions and forgive me.i did to save him from trouble.i never ever had bad intentions for him till date.but he is taking me wrongly.i thought I should protect my near and dear,but I got to offend him badly,i was aware of this circumstance,but I did purely do for his good.what do I do to prove my self.i did mail him message him saying truth ,I even apologized,still he is mad at me.should do anything ,if so what should I do,if not should not try contacting him(I mean should I give him space).please help.
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You followed your instincts, nothing wrong with that. It sucks that this guy can't understand that but in time he might. You will never know what you avoided unless you don't. Meaning that you will never know of something bad that could have happened to you if it does not happen. You could have saved him a great deal of grief, at the same time maybe you didn't. The only way you would have known is if you hadn't said anything and she screwed him over. Then you would have felt bad for NOT doing anything. This is what parents go through everyday. If you have to be the bad guy to keep the ones you love safe then so be it. I'd rather someone I loved hated me and was safe then loved me and in trouble. Can you live with that? I know I could.0