so I have been dating my boyfriend for two years when things are good they are really good but every once in a while our personalities will clash and we'll have a huge fight. (we're really similar in some aspects and then SO different in others so we can get in some nasty fights) anyway we got into a tiny fight last Friday and I told him that I don't want this fight to get out of hand so let's just take the weekend to get back to our right minds and we'll talk on monday. he agreed and then before I got out of his car he said I love you and kissed me.
then on Sunday night, my best friend calls me crying saying that she and my boyfriend went to the same party and got drunk and hooked up and she feels awful. but my boyfriend didn't say anything to me until I asked how his weekend was and he said he drunkingly KISSED my friend, but my friend said they had sex so when I told him that he acted surprised and then told me that they only kissed and my bff insists they slept together.
it's a week later, and I still don't know who to believe or what to do and whether of not to forgive my boyfriend and my best friend or not.
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It sounds to me like your best friend feels AWFUL about her mistake, and she was brave enough to tell you. Your boyfriend, on the other hand, sounds like he is lying, and trying to get past it. It is possible that he was so drunk, he doesn't remember having sex with her.
You have to decide if you can look over his drunken infedelity. Unlike what some others are saying, he DOES NOT have the right to hook up with other girls just because you're unavailable for sex, he CAN, but that is called CHEATING! If he would own his mistake, you might be able to forgive him, because he was drunk, but the fact that he is (probably) lying about it, is a big warning sign.
Right now is when you should begin to consider (cheating aside) whether you even want to continue a relationship... you have been together for 2 long years, do you see a future with him? I'm not saying marriage, but sometimes when we have been with someone for so long, we feel safe because the idea of starting over is scary. I would really think about your feelings for him Even if you can forgive the sex, do you want to?1