I asked out my crush of two years a month ago and she turned me down. However she didn't say she's not interested but kept giving excuses like "let me check my schedule". If I send a text she'll respond a couple of times and then say "she's busy and has to go". I know she's rejecting me and I'm trying to move on but it's been a month and I think about her constantly. I'm not blaming her because I know she's trying to be nice about it, but by letting me down easy my mind knows she's not interested but my heart is holding out hope for a miracle. I keep thinking she may call or if I give her a little more time she may change her mind. I've been getting out and trying to meet new people but my heart can't move on. How do I get over her if I never got closure?
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you did get closure but she didn't want confrontation. She cares about you as a friend and she turned you down because she's not interested hun, it doesn't get much more closed than that. its obvious, if she was interested she would say she's interested.
move on, don't talk to her for awhile take some space and don't make it awkward just get busy. take times do things for you. go out with your other friends, pick up a hobby, work out at the gym, do whatever you need to do to better yourself. if a girl doesn't like you don't take it as such a rejection just think of it as you both don't share the same things in common and you don't need to change for anyone. you are wonderful just the way you are (as long as you're not abusive, mean, or a murder I mean_. but seriously take time and just find you.
stop worrying about her (I know easier said than done) but take time to focus on you and everything else will fall into place. just delete her number for now... or just don't call it or text. don't obsess over her not wanting to date you, delete her on fb for awhile. or even if you want just text her one last time and say hey look I know you're not interested but I've liked you for a really long time and I appreciate the way you turned me down but I jsut wanted to let you know until I get over you we can't be friends. this has nothing to do with you and everything to do with me.
trust me time will help, finding things to do will help and believe me when I say this to you... there is someone great out there waiting for you but you have to be completely open to that possibility and right now you just arent.
Cheer up dear! It does get better I promise!0
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