Girls how would you feel if your recent ex, about a week ago, you broke up with him, and your upset, but it doesn't seem to phase him? How qould you feel if he was all happy talking to you, like laughing, but not really talking to you at all...this is after a long term relationship. Mine was 3 years.
I act like it doesn't bother me at all...and I don't think she likes that at all...its been about a week. I remember sending her a message saying like, "youll always be happy no matter what, if it be with your friends or probably someone else you find, you'll always be happy :)" I said that and she just said, "that was nice"
like does she get upset that I'm like this? might she come back? Ya I am upset she broke up with me, but I'm not getting my hopes up, she has come back once, but ya like I said I'm not sure if this is REALLY over or not...what do you think
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move on. I mean if you're upset be upset that's okay you don't have to be mr. macho or super nice guy to let her know. just send her one last text and say hey, this does bug me and I know you'll be happy one day whether or not its with me or with someone else. I love you and ill always care about you but right now I need space for me and I hope that you'll always be in my life but I need sometime to get used to us not being together.
Then when you feel comfortable talk to her again. I mean you were in a relationship for a really long time and while I know you don't want to lose this person you also need to get space and clarity for you. No one can miss someone or get things straightened out unless they go without that person. You get what you allow from the situation and I'm not saying take time to see if she comes back I'm saying take time to be okay without her... you were for the rest of your life before her and you'll be okay without her. its like you said you'll be happy either way and so will she. But talking to her and texting her and pretending it doesn't hurt when it does well that's not real... that's just hiding it and hoping that it all works out.
Also, if you really want her back have a conversation with her and tell her that. and if it doesn't go the way you want it at least you and her will get some real closure and then walk away and really walk away. take some space the key here is not playing games its being honest. its taking space that is needed and defining boundaries.
I do think its typical guy behavior but I also think that's why guys turn into jerks they never take time to heal and just be okay again. its like you guys are so good at compartmentalizing things that you take your future insecurities (baggage) out on the next girl. if it doesn't bug you that's cool too but give her space anyways just because she broke up with you and she might appear happy its still getting used to you not being together. it still hurts. that's why break ups are hard and that's why they don't always feel right even when its the right thing to do.
hope that helps.0
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