I got back together with my ex of long term relationship. After four months he was still unable to say he loved me so I said maybe this isn’t working out. He accused me of being self destructive bc I thought it be best if we go our separate ways since he didn’t love me. We dated for two years living together for one. He talked to me off and on for five years during the breakup. Am I being self destructive? He ended up dumping me anyways but I was just wondering what about what I did was self destructive?