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How long did you take?
One time was about two years and the second was about that long or longer in many ways.
Do you think it’s a bad idea to date someone who hasn’t been out of a relationship for shorter than a year?
How long were they with their ex and how long have they been single?
Definitely at least a year and I saw him on bumble this fall. It looks like he updated his profile but is never on. It looks like he was on for a month tops. It sounds like he doesn’t want a commitment and I should give it time.
A month would be too soon to have a mind that is open for a new start i m o. They would still have their brain and feels connected with their ex. I wouldn't want to date someone that doesn't want commitment when dating though because I wouldn't want a girl that sleeps around personally. People like that are quick to cheat.
That’s why I think he’s taking a break and wants to be single. Does that make sense?
Yeah it's understandable. You could just do some casual stuff or look for a more serious guy. Maybe talk to him once he's done with that stuff.
I’ve been focused on my career so I don’t mind. He’s also a police officer and works night so we’re both busy. Maybe down the road
Yeah maybe. It sounds like the timing isn't right. From my experience, there has to be an amazing reason to reconnect if the timing isn't right or it's just easier to find someone else.
He’s worth the wait. He was a co-worker. I’ll just talk in a few months. I think it will be better on both ends.
I honestly don’t mind waiting too bc I just got out of a relationship so I understand completely and I can just reconnect down the road
I would give him an idea of your intentions. Well I'm speaking for myself. I'd only be with someone that was open with feelings with me. I realize a lot of people prefer to act like things aren't important to be cool or whatever.
Honestly it’s best to just let it be for now and cross that line in the future. He’s probably focused on his job.
I’m trying to pass a licensing exam so that’s why waiting doesn’t bother me. I’m not effected by it.
Yeah but he might find someone
So your saying go for it
Personally I don’t think he has time to think about that stuff with his career
He works alternating shifts day and night and alternating weekends. I don’t think he wants to date.
It depends on yours and his connection. Doesn't have time is an excuse.