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I agree with your point to some extent, the pushing their partners away, men's nature. But don't you think a there is a level of loyalty that is being expected from your partner?
@Some_Goof I believe there is, ma'am... the moment they agree to become Your partner, they should be loyal and in turn... so should you. but you are 2 different people... there will be clashes while balance is trying to take place... but part of that loyalty... is to learn to compromise. I said this to some girls... lets say im dating someone, and we have an argument (happens... right?) then we get in bed to sleep and well... im still with her and i want to have sex and she turns me down... ok... she has that right... but the next night too (over the same shit) and the next, and the next... well then... she lost the right. Im fucking @Marrry down the block lol. **sorry Marrry, your name just popped up, and i just used it for kicks**And the girl im with can't say shit... SHE started the cheating. how is turning down the "partner" you are supposed to be "loyal" to, not cheating? Oh, i also have a "cant, and wont" theory extension as too why i think the "normal" definition of cheating is stupid. example... she COULD have had sex with me after the argument... but wouldn't. You dont stray on someone who can't, you stray on someone who Can but won't... especially those who dont explain why.
Thanks for explaining it. I agree with what you said.
@Some_Goof welcome darling. whew for a sec there i thought you were gonna argue... didn't know how else to break it down.
Lol, I stay away from internet arguments as much as I can.
@Some_Goof I dont. I dont believe everything i say is right... but i do believe we are entitled to our own opinions because we have different backgrounds, environments and experiences... what i call "wanting to see where you are coming from"... is what other people call argument. All i want is for you to tell your side, i tell mine, and then we pick the truth from both and agree... end of story.
Dude it was punished by society in those days, you could never have shit like ashley madison, stfu u dont know what you arr talking about. A cheating wife couldnt just divorce and take half the dude"s shit either
You have to actually read history to realise that you're wrong.
Why don't you give me some of your history examples?
@Twenty2 well it was rare that people married for love so there were going to be people that had affairs. Also there were many prostitues so considering people married between the ages of 10 and 25, I would have to assume that they were being frequented by people who were married. My knowledge mostly comes from the upper class as we know more about them than the lower.
I believe you assume a lot
@Twenty2 believe what you want but you are yet to argue your case, if you don't I'll have to ASSUME you don't have one.
You just gave assumptions in your case. Assuming stuff doesn't make it true. Your case is null and void. I can't counter argue assumptions.
@Twenty2 I'm not asking you to counter argue my points, I'm asking you to give me an example of yours.The reason I said assume is because I wasn't there, we can only draw assumptions from the past unless it was explicitly written.
In India in the past, the cultural values were very high. People used to live in villages, everyone in the village used to know each other and treated each other as family. People were conservative. Having an extramarital affairs would have caused a lot of troubles for whomsoever was involved resulting in punishment or even worse. And there's no way anyone was gonna have an affair with another village girl/boy. People used to talk a lot. They still do. So taking history as an example is not good. I don't know about the west that much but I can assume without the technology that we have nowadays, cheating would not have been such a normal thing. Nowadays everything's just a swipe away.
@Twenty2 thank you for your perspective, it was interesting to learn. In England, specifically the royal and upper classes, it was very common for the man not to by faithful in marriage, you also heard about women not being faithful but they would usually be executed for it. A good example is king Henry the eighth and all his wives.
Cool! Didn't know.
Yeah, another subtle way of justifying it, "Men take the logical way", Who the hell said it's logical to not communicate & cheat?
Logical meaning guys generally don't observe when the partner is upset they think if she is upset she will tell me and may I can solve it.. but at that point women just want to be heard and cared for... but guys then try to solve the issue at hand ... so the approach is different for guys and girls when they are upset... This mismatch causes unresolved issues and may be cheating... What ever I said might be wrong too... I am not a genius if u have a better point let me know... I hope u understood what I am referring to when I mean logical.. boys resolve issues by solving it but women resolve issues by talking about it... Guy is busy solving and female feels like she wasn't heard and guy feels like he wasn't helpful when she needed him... Small things over years lead to bigger problems
I’m a woman! But I fucking agree with you!