Is that a yes or no?
It does not matter if someone go back or not. It is the why they got back or not is the most important question.So it does not mean it is right or wrong... it all depends on the why.Whether it is for stupid and shallow reasons or good and sound reasons , each one have to ask themselves.
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Random question: do you think it’s best to let someone heal before you pursue a relationship with them if they’ve been in a relationship for two of the past years and just got out of one this past fall?
I think on average people get over a loved one in about a span of 6 months.
Does that necessarily mean they want to be ready for a serious relationship or there over the person and want there freedom
At that point, it just depends on the person. Some people might want to stay single because the breakup really mess them up that much or they might be ready to get into a new one once they finally accepted that the previous partner wasn’t good for them anyway.
Would you let someone be if they just got out of a relationship in less than a year? At least for now
It depends on how close it is to a year after. It has been a month away from being a full year since I was dumped and I’m not sure if I feel better enough or I’m just numb. Again it really depends on the person.
Yes that’s exactly what I’m saying it might not be enough time
I was also going to do my own thing for awhile
Good there’s no harm in doing that
Yeah, they should have time to heal. The time it takes can vary. Leaving a relationship in the past fall until now *could* be enough time to heal. Just depends on the person.
So you’d focus on you for now and worry about it down the road
Yes, I'd focus on me.. then after I'm healed, would seek out another relationship.
I saw him on a dating app doesn’t that mean he’s trying to move on from her and not get back with her
Yeah, seems like he thinks he's ready to move on.
Should I give him time and focus on me. I saw him on the app last fall. I’ve been so busy with my career. I was going to go for it in 2020.
You could put out feelers and see how he's doing.
Would you assume he’s not looking for something serious
It could go either way. He could be looking for something serious. I know I have been. But everyone is different.
I know the summer are his busy months though he’s a cop so I was going to give it some time. He works nights and sleeps during the day
Go with your instinct.
My instinct tells me he’s not looking for something serious and focused on work so I should wait
OK... he may not be ready yet... focusing on work can be a healing/coping mechanism.
Did you date right away or enjoy being single?
Enjoyed it for a little bit, about 6 months or so, but always ended up in a relationship again
What about if there already on a dating app after the break up
I personally would move on
Random question: This guy had a girlfriend and said we should go our separate ways and he needed time. He broke up with her last fall. Should I let him be this summer and reach out next year?
Sure... why not? He did tell you that he needed time... and you would be giving him time. So, you lose nothing by reaching out.