So I just got out of a 10 year relationship she was both mentally and physically abusive she wasn't all the time but when It did end up happening it was bad. I got tired of continuing to try with her and putting my feelings aside so that we could be together also spending tremendous amounts of money and time for someone who did me that way. She would constantly breakup with me. And i would constantly try to win her back but at this point im done with being used and abused. But im having trouble trying to get over her. I thought she was the one I was going to marry was going to have my kids and That we was gonna grow old together. I still love her n want to be with her but im done with allowing my self to be abused/used. What do i do any suggestions?