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Even I been through the same.
I can only hope they'll get exactly what they deserve for deliberately causing this much damage.
This is what I feel, plus it seemingly taking longer than I expected for the bitch to be punished for cheating on me.
Yeah. Shit happens.But that's why I want to go outside and meet some women in person to accelerate the process. Forgetting is the key - at least in my experience.
For what it's worth, had my exp on this, it stings deep... like an electric shock. They can really hurt as we are designed for each other (male/female) connected at the heart... so the loss/abondonment/shame cuts deep. The healing for me came from taking the value from it, growing and improving. That way... it wasn't a loss, it wasn't a waste, it wasn't about "her fault". It was training, growth... Id never have gotten to where I was without her... she was a gift!! wouldn't have the $ to buy the knowledge I gained. Obviously this is a spin on the pain, but it is a positive way to view the tragegy. I don't wish people to suffer, but sometimes, often, the only way we progress is by suffering... and so we keep repeating it over and over until we grow out of the frozen state we are in. Everyone just wants "____", noone wants to hurt. Anyone can get hit by a meteor, but if the meteor keeps striking... somethings' up!!!
@lightbulb27 I deleted everything about her from my life.The memories are here to stay and cannot be deleted.I'd gladly forget her forever. My health is more important to me.Guess we'll just learn to survive with it.One very good relief I may have is learning that something bad will happen to her or already happened. Justice is what I am asking for.
I agree the memories don't leave, can't erase. some pain is so strong people block and cannot remember... that isn't good either. the problem here my friend is that that S#it controls! It's like a broken rudder on a ship... was prob broken before, now it's reinforced broken and no way in hell anyone can steer that ship to a good place. We deal with our emotions, resolve them. There should really be men's support groups for such things. It is possible to "re-process" those emotions so they had value, so we forgive... ourselves and the other, so we are free of the trap and lies contained (e. g. I'm not worth it, I'm not lovable... how did it make you FEEL?). That is the value here. And then correct those lies. There are 4 billion more females out there, ones way more stable than that mess... that one would have sent you straight into a deeper version of hell than you can image. She saved you big time. Women do that, they are in a way... a stone that sharpens another stone.. and makes it better. However you heal emotionally, that is a must, or the trauma repeats and grows.
How old was she?
She is my age nowBut we dated from 16-19 years old
Man you are lucky that you got to have relationship at young age, for me it wasn't untill I was 19 or something.
Yeah it was great. Wish I could have kept it going
You prefere guys? I'm not judging by the way.
Yup. I'm bi but with a preference for guys
Oh! Good to know.
You know I had relationship with a manipulative and toxic woman, it was hell being with her I thought she was a mature and sophisticated lady, but in reality she turned out to be shallow and self centered, abusive bitch.
Yeah and I thought that he'd be a nice guy. People like that are good at making themselves seem good in the beginning.
Yes that's true.
But the guilt and trauma doesn't let us be in peace it hurts a lot.
How long has it been since you broke up?
Not long a few months
Oh! for me it's been 2.5 years since the woman I love was stolen from me, it's hard to suppress those memories and sometimes it causes excruciating pain.