Basically it was toxic because freinds who I've known for years (female I wasn't able to speak too). If I tired to leave the house to go work out or even grab a drink with my friends (guys) she would get super upset and it would make feel bad to go out.
Okay that just sounds like she’s was deeply insecure in herself. She probably had no confidence in herself, and felt these other women as a threat. She probably had full trust in you but very little self confidence which caused her to feel down, and low in herself. If you feel like it’s something that can be resolved, I’d sit her down and tell her what you think, and tell her that it needs to change. Reassure her that she’s beautiful, that she should absolutely love herself, and that you’ve no interest in these other women. Subtly suggest that she should seek guidance to improve her self confidence. The chances are she’s forgotten what life was like without you, which has made her lose herself a little bit, which makes you insecure because you depend on someone else to be happy. She needs to learn how to be happy alone. That’s why I reckon space would be a good shout but I think you should address this with her if it’s the route you decide to take
Thank you a lot for your time, I think deep down it might be best to end the relationship especially with my career choice I won't be around in the country for a long time
It’s up to you at the end of the day. If you don’t love her, move on. I think that is a major factor! I wouldn’t risk losing someone if you think there’s a possibility of a future. But if you’re moving away and she’s not moving with you, consider that a factor of moving on, it all depends on how long you were together, I think you’re young, you’re only 20. If you were 22/23, even 24, I’d say you may have a higher risk of staying together or even making things work long distance
Also another thing I want to add, is, if youve broken up with her and told her you’re definitely never getting back together, then you’re best leaving it be, but if you said you wanted to break up but left it in the air, i think you should have one more chat with her! But only if you’re certain. I think you should go and clear your head before making a decision. How long were you together?
Thank you again I appreciate the help
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