Let me clarify. If you are physically, emotionally or otherwise abused PLEASE contact the nearest battered women's shelter and get out today!! Do not spend another moment putting yourself or your children in danger.
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Sometimes the child blames themselves for their parents splitting. And it completely changed them on how they view relationships in general
Parents are supposed to be role models for their kids
And when they see their parents fight and split eventually, that changes their outlook on relationships with others, especially lovers.
I agree with everything you've said except for one thing. As much as the parents are affected, the children are affected equally as much, obviously not in the same ways but still. Children need as much of a positive environment as possible. You said the the children wouldn't know how to cope, I think that alone can be hard enough as it is. If the parents aren't able to deal with the divorce, I think it rubs off on the children, especially if you don't explain to them what is going on. They will grow up resenting one or both of their parents. And, depending on how bad the marriage was, this is at least partially the reason why kids end up being bullies, for example, or get themselves into other kinds of trouble.
@someguy81 that's why I look at it more in a vacuum. If the parents do well it is still hard for them in a massive way that can be devastating. While handling it well drastically improves how well the children respond
@someguy81 like no spouse is going to have it easier if the divorce goes "smoothly". It's just long over the top pain. Or long not over the top pain because the ex is being cooperative
@rjroy3 I'm not trying to lessen the impact divorce has on the parents, especially if things ended badly. I just think that a lot of people overlook the impact that something like that can have on kids.
@someguy81 I'll agree to that for sure. It definitely affects them in a big way. It shouldn't be minimized nor should we act like theyll just get over it.
Yeah I've even seen my dad abuse my mom. but she didn't divorce him. he divorced her for another woman
Sorry to hear.It’s always better to be in a calm, safe place as a child.
Like others have said (not here), I'd rather have grown up with two separate but happy parents IF that is what it took to have peace!-SV
Don't blame your parents for your sucky life lol. Grow up and mature!
I wasn’t blaming them or saying I have a sucky life I was saying it made a difference.
I say children are more affected by this
Wait didn't mean to respond there