Whatever may be, and whoever might have dumped but the thing is they banged her... n he has to face them in family functions in front of respected families and feel the awkwardness and humiliations... in front of them, who are happy and does'nt have to worry about this.
Were you and your wife together then?
No, not together that time, but soon after that... but the husband had no idea about his wife having such relations with his own cousins, n only came to know after marriage as the wife hid it.
But here the thing is they are his own cousins and family members whom they socialize with always. Now will the husband has to hide from his own exes or live with his head hung in shame in front of her exes and relatives?
Why? He hasn't done anything wrong why should he be ashamed?
Yes thats right. But here the situation will make him fall in humiliation, as he and his wife is a single unit now, so her situations willget reflected in his actions and decisions as well. If his wife would have to stay away or feel awkward in front of his hubby's cousins, then her husband too have to siffer it as he is her husband and a single unit
No your not a single unit, she is responsible for her action now, in the past and in the future. The husband is not responsible for anything except his action and how he deals with his wife.
But his mind will always fantasize about how his cousins might have banged his wife and what else they might have done with his wife, n what they and the close relative who knows about it may talk about him in his absence. So, the husband will have to face all this being a human... and has to be the only loser in the situatiin. As the wife and the cousins have nothing to lose as they already did whatever they wanted and enjoyed
Mind ghost are the husband fault, not the wifes, don't go down that path. You can't date if you can't deal with other people past sex encounters. Unless your virgin yourself you can't really expect your partner to be. And that also means your relationship is going to be a one chance thing because as soon as you do the deed your as tainted as the rest.
Non Virgin is not the issue here, he would not have mind if she would have had other partners which she also had, but the issue is with the cousins whom he would have to meet often and thus he will get reminded of her past everytime he sees them.
So would he if any old boyfriends where around, it's very likely that is the case when dating. There is only one way of dealing with it and that is not to think about it. Focus on the now not the past that can't be changed.
See knowingly nobody wants to think... but the mind automatically brings up or pops up such things... n they are his blood relatives so thinking about his wife getting bang by family members, and now he won't be able to visit his relatives home with his wife due to awkwardness nor could he destroy all relations with his blood relatives suddenly , ehich is close
If they were together and she lied about sleeping with them then the marriage is over. If they werent together and she lied, to me that's forgivable because she probably just wanted to save the embarrassment and awkwardness.
Yes it was before. But that makes itmore complicated. Because was she finally able to save the embarrasment and awkwardness for the husband. No. So she has nothing to lose nor this the cousins have anything to lose as they did whatever they wanted and also enjoyed. The only awkwardness would have to be beard by the husband in the gathering n functions
Yes, but now what can she do to get herhusband back?
which one are you trying to help?if this is the girl , maybe tell the husband that she is sorry and she won't hide facts like that any more, and try to avoid hanging with your husband and his cousins (since it's cousin, shouldn't need to hang too much). I guess it's really in the past , she didn't cheat , she lied because she knew it d cause big consequence for her even if the husband deserves to know
Will just telling sorry for hiding and making the husband go through such humiliation and also making the husband live far from his own cousins for it enough for it? What will that so exept to reduce his family relations and hid his face from his own cousins now?
meant she doesn't go when her husband and cousin hang out.seriously I really don't know , this is messy situation , what do you think she should do?I think the husband should move on , the trust is broken
Thats what I am asking that what can the wife do in such typical situations? And even if she does'nt go near them, the husband will have to follow the same and he too will have to hide from his own cousins and live with his head hung in shame in front of them forever?
uh why you need to feel ashamed , you chose her as your wife for a reason , if your cousin made you feel bad or ashamed or talk her in a sexual way , they are assholes , it's none of your fault
Even if they soes'nt talk about sex in fron of him, but their mind will definitly memoroze it and may be they may discuss about it in the husband's absence and may even make fun behind his back. And another thing is he will never be able to introduce or stay together with his wife in front of his cousins and the close relatives who knows about these facts, so as to avoid awkwardness. So the husband is the only sufferer for no fault of his. While the cousins n this wife has nothing to lose as they did whatever they wanted and enjoyed already
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So willhe have to live like that forever, with his head hung in shame in front of his own cousins whenever he sees them?