A break-up one okay I mean I didn't want to do it but we're still like best friends we still do a lot of things that couples would do except the sexual stuff and we broke up two years ago but I still do have feelings for her
if you didn't want to do it, i would suggest you tell her. As best friends, she deserves to know the truth, just tell her how you feel about it. Like if you're her only option, then its fine that she stays, but if she has plenty of other options to go to, it might be best for BOTH of you that she goes somewhere else then. definitely since you didn't want to do it. Living with each other only works if you both want it. (or when you really have no other option)
Well yeah I still have feelings for her and would like to get back together
I wish but no she doesn't want to do that
Oh well, good luck with her.
Well it's not going very well
Oh dear 😬
I'm still so in love with her
Maybe you can have chat with her to tell her how do you feel about her? To find out if she might have feelings same page as you or not. It’s up to you. However you do think best for you. Hope that will work out for you.
She knows how I feel about her we're still like best friends we do hold everything together yet except the sexual stuff
Oh wow. Okay, cool. Good for you.
Why is that good
Is good for you to still like your ex and do everything together yet.
Yeah everything except sex she has other guys for that 😂
Yeah some nights I can hear her doing it
Oh my! No way! Shut up! 😲 do you want your ex live with you while she doing it? She doesn’t have respect for you I mean are you ok with that when some night you can hear her doing it? I couldn’t do it! 😂 it’s very brave for you👏🏼👍🏼💪🏼
Well we're not together we're basically just roommates so she's not really doing anything wrong
Oh ok, if you saying so then cool.
I mean I can't deny that I'm jealous
😂😂😂 yeah, I understand that.
But as hard as it can sometimes be I'm also happy for her
I agree with you. It’s hard. It’s good that you are happy for your ex.
And she offered to not do it at the house but I told her it was okay. I mean I figured if she's going to be having sex with strange guys at at least rather do it at the house then somewhere else at least that I know she's safe
You are good person! So kind of you letting your ex in your house knowing that she’s safe! 👏🏼👍🏼 if your ex see your comment and I think she will be happy to hear that.
Yeah or think I'm a sucker
Hahahahaha! Like that 😂👍🏼
I mean really what kind of guy would let his ex the girl still loves have sex in his house with another guy's
That would be idiot but with good intentions.
Yeah that's what most seem to think
Yeah a lot of people tell me I shouldn't treat her the way I do I basically still treat her like she's my girlfriend
Good man! 👏🏼 do not listen what people tell you how to be treat her the way you do your ex. You are only know what to or how to treat your ex like she’s your girlfriend. 💯
Yeah but you don't think it's a bad idea to treat her that way
I am not sure. You are only one who knows.
I mean it's kind of confusing I guess we both like it it makes us happy but also would probably is holding me back
Hard part is I care so much about her love her so much treat her like a princess. But then she goes out and have sex with some loser who doesn't even care about her
Yeah, it’s kinda confusing. As long, you two are happy😊 be careful, I mean like you said that would probably is holding you back because you do need to be able move on and to get on with your life. Don’t be waste your time and your life especially for your happiness? Don’t you think? 🤔🤷🏻♀️
Yeah you want to hear something really sad and pathetic my sex life basically consists of me listening to her do it
It’s nice to know that you are still care about her and love her. Oh course, it’s hard part as always! I think you should tell her how you feel about what you have just said to me that your ex goes out to have sex with some guy who doesn’t even care about her? I am just sayings... 😬
Is it weird that as jealous as I get I'm also turned on by it
I am be honestly with you, yeah I think it’s weird that you are turned on but it’s not weird that you are jealous because it’s normal feelings.
Yeah I can explain why it turns me on
And what would be wrong but I also thought about spying on her
You can explain why it’s turn you on by message me if you want to. Please don’t do spying on your ex because it’s not good for you.
Oops I meant I can explain why it turns me on I don't know it just does like whenever I hear her doing it I always end up masturbating
😂😂😂 oh dear
Yeah I know messed up
Yep, you are so messed up
Do you think I should tell her that
I mean she asked me but I didn't really give her an answer
Yes, I do think you should tell her that and to see what she saying? OMG! Definitely you should have give her an answer and to see how’s feels!!!😂🤦🏻♀️ Be honestly with her 💯
Good luck!!! 👏🏼🙌🏼💪🏼😅
You think I should actually tell her that I get off on hearing her have sex
Well, it’s up to you and see what’s her reaction? 🙈👍🏼
When I guess I do kind of want to tell her I guess I'm just scared of what she might think but then again I think that she already thinks that
Oh come on! You can do it! 👏🏼💪🏼👍🏼 don’t be scared!
yeah you're right I should have just told her the truth when she asked me
Yup, 💯 you should have! 😂🤦🏻♀️
Well I didn't deny it either I just kind of change the subject
Yeah, I understand that and I probably do same as you lol 😂😅😬
Yeah it is kind of embarrassing
I agree with you 💯
I'm not sure how I should bring it up or if I should just wait for her to bring it up again
No way! Don’t wait for her to bring it up again because she’s probably already forgotten so you should bring it up?
Yeah you're right I need to just tell her I mean she pretty much already knows it anyway
Plus she know if I'm not having sex at all
It’s good to know that she know that you are not having sex at all.
Why is that?
That shows where is stand and have some respect I guess.
Yeah she has said before that she didn't care if I did but that she really wouldn't want me doing it at the house when she was there
I mean that was something we talked about early on when we decided to stay living together
Oh wow. Cool.
I no it may sound weird but then we mutually agreed that I would never do it at the house but that she could
Yeah, understand how you feels. Then talk to her about it?
I mean I did tell her that I would rather her do it at the house that way I know where she's at and that she's safe
Agree with you 💯 you are very good person and protective of her. 👏🏼👍🏼 I like that
Yeah her safety is my number one priority
Good man! 👏🏼💯 that it’s very important! I bet she would like that. I think😂😬😅
Yeah she knows that enter getting pleasure is also important to me
So yeah I told her and she's okay with it
Yay!!! 👏🏼🙌🏼👍🏼 great!
Yeah at first she just kind of laughed and said I knew it
I mean it was a little embarrassing talking about it she asked a lot of questions but I answered them all truthfully
Very good! Excellent 👏🏼👍🏼
yeah she likes that I only think of her when I masturbate
Ok! Cool. Do you like that she only think of you when she masturbate? Just saying...🤷🏻♀️🤭
She doesn't think of me when she masturbates
But she actually looked masturbate in front of her last night while she was talking dirty to me that was nice
Oh wow! Good for her! 👏🏼
Yeah hopefully that can become a regular thing
Haha😂 you are wishful thinking lol.
Why do nice things for her I give her a foot massage almost every night
Yeah. Is she return same for you I mean do nice things for you?
Also like massage on your back?
Yeah sometimes but not as much as I do for her
Need to be fair treat as same the way you do for her.
Well if she lets me do this then it would be fair and make up for it
and actually the foot massage thing is just as much for me because I have a foot fetish
Hahaha😂 good for you 👏🏼👍🏼 did you enjoy that?
She also did say that she found it pretty amusing seeing me play with my little dick well hearing about her sex life
Wow wow wow. Cool. Okay. I don’t know what to saying about that. I mean why she did say that she found it pretty amusing seeing you to play with your d***? I find that weird? I don’t know. 🤷🏻♀️😬
Probably she did enjoy to watch that or make you feels jealous? Maybe I am wrong lol. 😬
She like watching me masturbate I guess
Both she also likes making me jealous
Yeah, that what I thought so. 😂
That's okay I like it
That good to know that you like it. Well, keep and carry on if it’s that make you happy then do it for her. Just saying that all.
I don't know why but I like when she teases me sexually
I think it’s because she is your ex? That why you do like when she teases you sexually.🤷🏻♀️
I don't know if I told you much about our relationship but we actually didn't take that long
Either so am I. I don’t know about your relationship much but whatever that makes you and your ex happy as long doesn’t hurt each other feelings and have some respect 💯
Yeah we were like best friends for a few years before we started dating and she was already staying with me
That nice. Cute. Take care of each other.
and the reason she broke up with me was mainly sexual reasons
What? Like what? Don’t mind me asking?
Like I was too small for her and I didn't satisfy her sexually. She said she love me love the way I treated her we had so much fun together but she didn't enjoy sex with me
Oh come on! Sizes doesn’t matter as long you make her happy. Oh 🤦🏻♀️ so sad💔
You are deserve so much better than her!
And happiness too!
sexual pleasure I guess it's very important to her I couldn't give it to her
Yeah but I guess some people just aren't sexually compatible
Yeah. I guess you are right.
I mean I'm sure there's some nice guys that you've known that you like but not in a sexual way
I mean I guess I don't really plate for I guess that's something she really can't control
Yup. Do you feels sad that you couldn’t give her sexual pleasure? Look, doesn’t matter whether she is your ex or stay in your house but please telling her how you feels what you have just told me like sexual pleasure and absolutely everything and anything? I am just saying.
Yeah I did we pretty much talked about at all last night
She did say she thinks it's kind of strange
I mean what it’s kind of strange?
That I don't want to be with no other women and that I'd rather be thinking her masturbating than out having sex
Ok. I don’t think that it’s kind of strange. If she said it’s strange then ok.
I mean yeah she thinks it's strange but she also likes it
No she broke up with me as nicely as possible we're still like best friends I paid most of the bills it's my house she pays a little something and yes she has sex with others I haven't yet
Op you're a f%cking idiot and she's a mooch. Move the f°ck on. She's using you to save rent and plowing other dudes in your house you cuck
Ok, I've got enough context to see what's going on. My friend, her nicely breaking up with you was a shit test, and you failed it, and have been for the last 2 years. I've dated a woman like that, and been friends with her husband, as he slept in the spare room... of his own house.When she "broke up" with you, what she was doing was seeing if:1. How much you care about her, and2. Who wears the pants between you.-What she wanted to hear from you in response to her nicely breaking up with you was "... no. We've got a good thing going, and i'm not letting you go. Simple as that." Then if she keeps going, then what she wants to hear is "we can talk about this tomorrow, after you've slept on it". If she puts her foot down and says "it's over", she definitely does not want to hear in response "that's ok, you can still live with me and fuck other men in my bed if you want, that's how dependant on you i am and how much you wear the pants. Love you".Women want their man to be the leader. That's not the same as only being for number 1, for she wants you to care about her issues and deal with them, but only when she has to submit to you. If you give her everything she wants unconditionally, it not only won't make her happy, it'll actually make her more unhappy and even hostile to you, as they take everything you give them.
If you want start having sex with this woman again, and actually have her respect you enough to not fuck other men, especially in your own house, you need to kick her out. Tell her you never stopped loving her (cause clearly you didn't), but that love in action is conditional. Give her the ultimatum of you or these other men, and if she chooses them, calmly and stoically give her the minimum amount of time (like a couple of weeks or something, unless she already has somewhere to go) to move out; aka, kick her disrespectful ass out, as the stranger she choose to be when she broke up with you.In all probability, unless your replacement is both higher value AND offering the same or greater level of security/commitment you are, the odds are she'll come running back to you in a few weeks, maybe less, given how she hasn't already moved out by herself for said replacement. Seriously, for her to see you put your foot down and show her who's boss, that'll light a fire down before for her that she hasn't felt for you in years.And in the unlikely event she doesn't come back, cut your losses, gain some self-respect and move on. by the way, you're not in Newcastle, are you?
Well I still love her
Does she have any plans to get her own place, or is she at least being a good roommate and paying part of the housing costs?
Ya she pays
Then you just have an ordinary roommate situation. Kick back and continue to enjoy life.
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She said she just didn't have those kind of feelings for me
What kind of feelings?
Like sexual feelings
Right, I understand. Do you still love her romantically? Do you have sexual feelings for her?
Yes I do very much so
Okay, well I don't want to make you sad, and you don't have to take my advice because you'll know yourself better than me. But I think it's very unfair that you should have to be around someone who you love but cannot have and are unable to move on from since you are always around her. I fell very bad for you in this situation. Maybe you should talk a bit about boundaries etc and some distance, otherwise you'll never get over her. I mean, I don't know you enough to properly judge, but this sounds very selfish of her.
Yeah definitely is keeping me from moving on I haven't done anything with anybody sense and she was able to move on right away she was having sex like 2 weeks later
I guess yeah that's what I'm hoping
It's harsh to hear but she will disappoint you. If not right away, then later.
We have separate rooms I paid most of the expenses and it's been 2 years
IF SHE CAN’T PAY 50% OF EVERYTHING, SHE MUST LEAVE, SHE IS USING YOU... WAKE UP!!!
@smoothshaveI don’t think he gets that he’s being used...🤦🏻♀️He’s definitely going to learn this lesson the hard way.
I guess I do but I'm just not ready to let her go
@askerBut she’s already let you go, she doesn’t deserve you and the more time you waste with her the less time you’ll have to find that awesome woman who be able to keep her hands off you and pay 50% because she loves you and respects you too.
Yeah she moved on what's having sex already like a couple weeks after we broke up
I don't know I guess I just like having her there
Then you’re most likely gonna stay single for a long time!! Time flies and we get old!!! If you don’t dedicate time to find someone else, you’re most likely gonna stay alone forever. In case you care about that.
Yeah she's been able to move on I haven't seen Tiffany able to though
That's not really that fair then, hey?
And what I mean by relationship I mean like a friendship getting along just so I can make that clear
Yeah we get along very well we still do a lot of stuff together
Then Yh I don’t see the harm , what do other people around you think I’m curious?
They think it's unhealthy for me and holding me back because they know I still love her
Then I also think you should do what’s best for you however I don’t think it’s healthy in this term you admitted you still love her so I think your mentality hurting seeing that she’s moved on & I think that can be troubling especially as you do still have feeling
I don’t mean it in terms as you living together
Yeah. I guess with still having her here it's kind of like we're still together
Yes and I think the only way to officially move on is too tell her to move.
Therefore your mind can get used to it because I do feel inside it can be damaging to call her a friend when you really wanna call her your wife or girlfriend
Ya the first time she brought a guy over to stay the night that was a little hard
Noooooooo that’s not healthy number one it must be awkward for your and the new guy personally I’m assuming it’s your place I think that’s disrespectful of her she could have the respect to do it somewhere else and I think it’s very nice of you to still keep her
Especially in The nicest respectful way she left you... she can find her own place why is she using you as her home
I don't know I guess I told her she could stay there as long as she wanted
Truth is I don't want her to go
First of all who’s place is it , is it yours and do you own or it a rented place however if it yours get rid of that ungrateful girl
Then your not helping yourself because seeing her in your life is just hurting you even more
But I like having her in my life I guess it might mind as long as she still there it's not really over
I know I shouldn't but a lot of times I still treat her like she's my girlfriend
Well I’ve said my opinion the question you need to ask yourself is do I wanna help myself or hurt myself mentally
Yeah I know I'll never be able to move on her find anyone else with her still being there
So your dedicating your life to her sadness?
No she's not sad she's moved on I'm the one who hasn't
Well you need to
Yeah I haven't been with another woman since
Well you need to understand and acknowledge there are just as pretty and good women out there
Once you move on I know it’s hard but your won’t regret it and question yourself why didn’t I do this before
Yeah I don't know why it's so hard for me it was so easy for her a couple weeks later she was having sex already
To be honest your inflicting this pain on to yourself then. I hope things get better and you finally realise what the right decision is
Text specially listening to her having sex probably isn't the best thing for me
Yh your admitted it yourself move on , when your older your gonna regret it trust me on that one I know people personally who were just like you and regretted not spending their life happy
U only live once what’s the point is stressing And you being sad
So live life to your full potential
I guess maybe I just always hope she would change her mind
What are you waiting for Christmas? What makes you think she’s gonna change her mind? She’s already with and had sex with a new guy
Infact she’ll value you you more if you do move on then she’ll realise what she’s lost
It's been several guys actually but they're all just using her for sex they don't actually want her
Let her realise that then !
U do you then she’ll realise what a lovely diamond she’s lost ok
Yeah I guess I was thinking she'd realize that and then want me back
And you know what your gonna do? Not take her back because she’s not genuinely taken you back then again she’ll be using you
That’s what you call fake happiness as much tempting as it’ll be
Yeah she pays me
Yeah so no problem. You guys are flat mate.
Yeah except for the fact that I still love her
Well, can't do anything about that. You can't just chase her out...
I mean I do like having her there were like best friends yet
Still. You gotta move on. Can't just get a new girl and introduce your flat mate with this line:"Jane, this is my ex. I used to bang her. She is living with me in the same house".Not going to go well.
Yeah girl seemed to take that differently than guys do
Except for the fact that I still love her
Well if its uncomfortable ask her to leave. You can't change her so your gonna h as very to move on if that's what she wants
Well I like her having her there and don't want her to leave we're still like best friends get along very well do almost everything a couple would do except the sexual stuff
Well maybe that's what you will have to settle for it. But just realize it's your decision.
I mean it's been working for the past 2 years it's just I've our time moving on I have like zero desire to be with anybody else
Ya you need to work on that be cause your spinning your wheels on something that isn't going to pan out
Yeah I know but I'm not sure what to really do about it
Hope you find the answers you need
Yeah because she still has me to take care of her and do stuff with her but other guys to have sex with
Yeah she dosnt love you. You should take a girl home and have sex loud so she can hear
Is she really fucking dudes in your house?
Yeah I hear her doing it all the time
She gives zero fucks dude. And to add she's gunna tease. you AMD ur dick so you can pay for her living and she can use you for all you got. I hate little girls like this. Tell her she has 30 days to move out
Well she did ask before she did it and I said she could
Listen she clearly knows u still love her and like I said she is manipulating you. Your her bitch amd all those guys she fucls at your own house in their bitch too.
I know this may sound crazy but I actually like listening to her do it
Yeah it's just hard sometimes because I do still love her
I feel u at least she'll b in ur life still u have better chance of getting her back that way then leaving in bad terms u no everything about her u got advantage to win her back
I hope it helps
Actually it's been 2 years
Very weird.. she's using you for accommodation
@Warmapplecrumble I mean we're still like best friends and do a lot of stuff to together
Not sure why either of you aren't moving on then. What are you waiting for?
I guess because I still love her and don't want her to go
So... why the need to lie to yourselves and each other? Fix it
I would like to
yeah but we're still like best friends
friends with benefits?
We do everything together except that no sexual stuff
ok i BELIEVE that.
That’s What She Wants You To Believe, So She Can Continue To Get What She Wants...
Get out of there, toxic environment.
Yes to both
Does that bother you much?
Well I told her she could
Its your life. I don't agree with it personally but if it works for you...
Yeah I think it kind of already has
I can't imagine anyone wanting to date or be in a relationship with someone that still lives with an ex. It complicates new relationships and brings too much drama into your life. It's a weird setup. Why do you still live together?
If i dated a guy in this situation, i would assume they weren't over each other , and that there's a change they'll rekindle their relationship. It would be weird spending a night in at his with his ex present.
Because we're still like best friends and yeah I haven't been involved with anyone else. But yeah it was kind of hard and awkward the first time she brought a guy over and I could hear them having sex
That's so weird. I couldn't live like that, but I guess we are all different. It's weird to me, but obviously not to you and your ex
I mean yeah it is weird to me but yet I kind of like that also
Even if we're still like best friends
I don’t understand how people can go back to friends with someone they were romantically involved with. It sounds messy 😐 Do you still have feelings for her?
Yes I do I still love her so much
oh maybe that’s why. It makes a lot of sense
I guess with having her there and still feels like we're together
I mean we still do a lot of things that couples would do except for the sexual stuff
It’s just not a realistic one. Is there any chance that she’ll want to get back?
I don't think so but I keep hoping it's been 2 years
It's my house
Then what’s the problem?