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I've only had one in hindsight. Well, I've been disappointed by break-ups before that, but it's like this one major one made all the rest seem trivial in comparison. That one involved breaking up just 3 weeks before we were to be married though, and after all the arrangements had been made and after I had paid for most of the costs.And in that case, it's like I became completely disconnected from the world. Usually, I could empathize with all sorts of people, but during that period, it's like I saw all sorts of people walking by and they seemed like "robots" to me. I felt nothing for them. I also abandoned all my friends since they had also become friends with the ex that broke up with me, and I didn't want to risk seeing her by spending time with them.So I became very antisocial. I worked a lot during that period but barely talked to my colleagues. Then in between work, I started hanging out with homeless people a lot, bringing them lots of food and alcohol to eat and drink together. They were the one group of people I felt I could relate to well, since, while I was far from homeless and realized I was still quite privileged, it's like they lost everything and had it even worse than I did. I even tried sleeping on the streets several times in cardboard boxes, and this was in January when it was snowing, just to try to understand what that was like (it was miserable). :-DThen I also started wanting to try all sorts of narcotics, and in Japan narcotics are extremely illegal so I had to start associating a lot with organized criminals: Yakuza, Triad, Nigerian mafia. I even started to get friendly with some who seemed to like my nothing to lose attitude and some invited me to hang out with them in their homes and they started replacing my former friends in terms of people to hang out with. I snapped out of that self-destructive phase when I ended up getting so high and drunk out of my mind one time that I was arrested for disorderly conduct, resisted arrest, and got fined several thousand dollars for breaking the security camera in the jail cell.After that, I started realizing how stupid I was becoming and how lucky I was not to get killed by the police (fortunately Japanese police are very docile even though it took so many to restrain me), and I started cleaning up my act and focusing on recovery. I started researching all kinds of psychotherapeutic techniques to try on myself along with philosophies like Stoicism. That ended up helping a lot, learning how to become my own self-therapist, and I started picking up all sorts of new interests, started working out a lot, made new friends (and not organized criminals), went camping, traveling, etc, and finally I started waking up on days where I was actually excited to do something and not thinking about my ex at all.
Breakup up right before marriage!! My goodness!
It was quite a crazy case. But she was rather difficult, bipolar and anemic, prone to crying and fainting a lot. I had developed a great deal of patience for it and loved her in spite of it, but I think the pressure of all the wedding arrangements started getting to us both. And on the day we broke up, I had just come back from a business trip overseas and was jet-lagged and tired, and I had a moment of immaturity and loss of patience where I snapped at her one time when she started becoming difficult. It's the first time I ever did that, and yet that was enough for her to think I'd be like that from that point on and she impulsively end things right then and there, and I was stunned.Yet I see it like broken hearts are broken dreams. It's like I was so empty and numb and just wanting to feel something because I built all my dreams and hopes around her like I wanted nothing else but her at that point, and all those hopes and dreams came crumbling down in a single day. And people say time can heal everything, but I don't think that time was enough in my case. I could imagine an alternate reality where I'd be the most depressed drunk and junkie still reminiscing about those days. I had to proactively start seeking to mend the broken heart to even begin to recover after long periods where I wasn't recovering and possibly even making it worse.
The way I look at these things now is that a broken heart is like this: take a rising athlete. He/she starts becoming prominent through high school, then university and finally gets recruited by a major league. Then just as they're starting to feel like they've achieved all their hopes and dreams, they suffer a debilitating injury that ends their career right then and there in an instant.That person can spend the rest of their life drunk and high and miserable and reminiscing about their former glory days, and what could have been. Or they can start fixing it by shifting their hopes and dreams to something they can achieve instead, like shifting focus to a new sport that they can do in spite of their former injury. And that's the path to recovery as I see it.
Haven't been there yet but my last ex showed me that I am prone to getting 'heartbroken'. I don't feel like I can be heartbroken anytime soon as I have confined myself to myself. But I can guess what that'd be like and what I will be doing. Play video games, exercise, analyse things, point out my mistakes, learn from it and above all, not letting my life be in a loop.. a horrible loop with never ending bad happenings.
people say oh be around ur friends and family, but when you're heartbroken you're probably not in the mood for trying to be 'happy' and its okay to be sad, what i do is i listen to music a lot and be patient about it, the heartbreak won't disappear in a second, no matter what u do, it'll get better but be patient about it, and please don't starve yourself or bring yourself down
I find sleeping more than normal can help you deal with it - but not everybody can sleep on command - but if you can - it will allow your brain to naturally recover
That’s normal but you should eat to prevent you know death and stuff.
But my appetite is completely gone.
Ignore your appetite you need nutrition
Samee by the way can you pls follow me back? You can block me or unfollow me but I really have something very important to talk to you about
What is it?
I'm in love with someone from dhaka. I met her on reddit and I want to ask you a couple of things about Dhaka and Bangladesh, follow me back so that I dm you?
Ask someone else from BD. Not me.
Very rude. I wouldn't have even asked you in the first place if I knew someone from BD. Issue is I don't see many friendly people from BD who are willing to help. Probably a holistic country problem. Anyway I'm sorry to bother you. Have a good day sis
Grudge F--k, Vodka & Vicodin, "Road Trip !!"You got to do something monumental, definitive to put the ache behind you.
I don't think I've ever been really heartbroken, I'm supportive of people coming and going. If I were though, I would probably write down my thoughts to get them out, confide in a friend, or try to channel it into something creative like art.
Eat brownies and laugh at dark humor... wait that's every day... so yea I will di this
I love dark humor!!
Time heals all wounds, you just have to wait it out..In the meantime, it's best to be with your friends at this point. Besides, you're only 18, I find it hard to believe you were "heartbroken"
18 year olds can experience heartbreak, surprise surprise!!
Nope, they can't
Well I can stand spoiling my own self and my mental and physical health.. I know it's really hard but the songs are very helpful
Go out and find some one night stands or get together with some gal pals to get kinky.
Depressed: Watch Comedy Anime/Movie/Web SeriesUnhappy: Watch Comedy Anime/Movie/Web SeriesHeartbroken: Watch Comedy Anime/Movie/Web Series
what's with women and nothing eating when they are heartbroken?
I don't know man. My appetite is completely gone I swear.
You have to get out have fun get your mind off of it
That sounds like deep depression
I'm not depressed at the moment.
When I'm heart broken I will eat a lot
I cry. Have a fir. Can’t eat or sleep.
depends on the cause of the heartbreak
When it’s a permanent state, just carry on
Thinking and doing nothing
Music 🎶 and drink 🍻
get out more
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