I agree with you..
That was deep
Surviving a divorce makes one profound lol Lots of time to think and process.
Im sure it was difficult! Hope you are doing better
That's an eye opener. Which if that's the case then they definitely aren't the person I thought they were because I would of never given them my heart so I'd have to chalk it up to a lesson learned and cut bait
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but if you really love somebody shouldn’t you be willing to avoid making such big mistakes?
Life doesn't work that way. That's why it's called a mistake. Unless they intentionally do it, then I can't say anything about that.
How does someone cheat regardless of the circumstances and it not be intentional? I mean that's like me stealing your wallet from your top drawer and saying it was an accident. I mean if your partner told you beforehand then I'd say it's not cheating but even then its up to you if you dump them or not.
@broken_heart_at_48 A mistake has nothing to do with whether or not it is intentional. An accident and a mistake are not the same thing.
Ok instead of me saying it was an accident let's just act like I said mistake. My main question is when a person cheats how is it not intentional? I mean there's usually a few steps leading up to the actual act of cheating that makes it a very deliberate act. It's not like it was unavoidable, and anybody knows that cheating is going to hurt their partners feelings. I'm just trying to understand because I've been cheated on and they swear they love me. Maybe they do just not as much as I once loved them.
@broken_heart_at_48 A mistake can be intentional. It's not an accident.I was cheated on too.
Actually a mistake implies you didn't mean to do it and intentional means that you intended to do it. Now perhaps you're saying that you knew it was a mistake and did it on purpose ( not you necessarily just whoever) for whatever reason. Maybe they didn't think it through (selfish) or just couldn't control themselves (selfish) or maybe the were drunk. Drunk is still a lame excuse but it's one I'd probably give the most slack on because even though I'd they should of never let themselves be in such a situation and even when drunk they should be trustworthy and getting so drunk you become stupid isn't being trustworthy, but then again I've done a lot of stupid shit while drunk and lost a lot of friends from blacking out and becoming violent so as I think about the amount of friends that I've scared and lost I had a group of good friends and the mom of the group wrote me a letter saying that I scared them because I got so mad that they knew they couldn't reason with me and definitely couldn't control me so I guess I'm going to have to say you were right you can make a mistake intentionally cause I truly am ashamed for some things I've done while drunk and if I could change that night I would this certain incident was over 5 years ago and I can still see the fear and disbelief in her eyes as she just froze and didn't know what to do. If I could do such terrible crap to close friends just because some idiot made a comment about my wife and I just didn't like him wow thanks ripper e. Even though you probably did mean mistake by alcohol you brought me to totally rethink my view on this sorry about the stupid long reply
@broken_heart_at_48 "an action or judgment that is misguided or wrong."Just because you intended to do it doesn't mean it's not a mistake.
Man I was going to divorce my wife and she got deathly sick as a matter of fact she almost died the doctor said if I didn't make her come when I did she wouldn't of made it through the night and she's not getting better so I decided I was going to let her think we were ok so she wouldn't die alone but only because she did give me 20 years of the most amazing relationship I could want we were best friends and the greatest lovers ever for 20 years of marriage and 2 years of dating. Plus I couldn't be the kind of dad that leaves their mom while she going through this it would break my daughter's hearts. But now I have to rethink everything
Yes you wouldn’t want to hurt them of course but i doubt some people cheat to hurt ther partners
In that moment they are just being selfish, all about a temporary pleasure
Yes it’s selfishness for sure
If they were selfish by way of cheating more than once are they likely to do it again
Also if you love someone why would you even put yourself in a situation where it could happen?
What do you think?
it’s pretty unlikely
I’m sorry if someone has done this to you
And do you find an answer?
Can you explain how and how you know this?
Because it's happened way too many times. I've done a lot of research and have seen experts talk about it aswell.