I guess example would be cheating in a relationship? The men cheats and wife found out. But he still wants to work on the relationship. Knowing that he has already hurt her by what he has done? But still wants to work things out? Could it be out of guilt they stay by the person they hurt?
In that case I believe the husband still loves the wife but clearly had a need that he felt he had to go elsewhere to get fulfilled. That’s a mistake, and because she opened herself up to receive love when people make mistakes in love it hurts. It’s possible he feels guilty also once he realizes how his mistake affects her especially since he loves her. But yes he admits he isn’t a perfect person and wants to work with her the repair the relationship. Now it’s also possible he has fallen out of love with her and is lying about wanting the work on the relationship so he avoids a divorce. Maybe he doesn’t love her anymore and that’s one reason he cheated.
Both things you suggested is a possibility. There is definitely something there that is hard to tell. The husband has told the wife he loves her but still somehow still does things behind her back. Example dating site and pay for sex. But to do all this things, he would surely knows he would hurt her very deeply, right?But at the same time he states that he loves her and want to work things out. And also stated that he did all that with his mates and it was also encouraged by them. ( the worst thing is some of his mates are married)The husband currently has changed his number, so his mates can’t contact him. And not going out for pay sex service and are home most day except work and attending counselling session with partner. The statement can be quite hard to understand I find it can be true but I guess is up to the individual and the situations.
So your husband made one mistake and he’s confessed. Good to be getting counseling. Just be sure to keep the communications open and frequent so that once he feels a sexual need in the future he can talk to you about it and doesn’t need to cheat. While his friends may be an excuse, he is still your husband and should tell you with all honesty all his requirements and needs to feel fulfilled in life.
The communication channel is always open but he just don’t want to voice out his issues. Keep it in most time. I’m all for communication. Actually, he didn’t confessed. It was found out through bank statement by accident and I guess gut feeling. He only confessed through counselling. He could only talk in front of counselor but if we were alone he will avoid it or say nothing as reply. Is hard to know his real though.
There you go, you know what you need to work on within the relationship. He needs to be able to talk to you with no filter and complete honesty. This man is married to you and should trust you completely and be willing to share all his mind and heart in complete intimacy.
Thank you for your response and encouragement.I praying hard and hope he would turn around and change completely. But I’m at a point where I’m ready to give up on this marriage.For sure we have fights and disagreements but I never ever would have cheat on him with anyone no matter how tough our marriage is. I have remains faithful, cause I want I promise for us.
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