If he's over me and moved on why is he STILL talking shit about me to others?

Question

We broke up a few months ago and it's mainly because of HIS actions and I left him and moved out with our baby. I do not bother this man for nothing (not even needs for our baby) because he's a deadbeat and toxic and I'm letting the courts handle him. I do not interfere with his life or new relationships and we haven't talked in weeks so it's not like I bother him. The last time we spoke it was literally only about our child, I called him because I needed our baby's documents which he denied me of. He disrespected me, abused me and cheated on me so why is he angry with me? Why is he lying to others about me and trying to publicly humiliate and disrespect me on social media?

Answer 1

Goforit1010 | 365 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Yoda

No one wants to be blamed for a bad situation or relationship. Even though you don't talk to him or bother him, he sees you as blaming him for the way things went. Granted, it's extremely rare that only one person bears total responsibility for the breakup of a relationship. I'm sure you too, had some role in that situation. My point is, he hates being the bad guy, even though he probably was.

We live in a society that loves to blame everyone else, make excuses, and for some dumb reason NOT take responsibility for our own actions. He's doing all of that, while you're doing your best to avoid him, take care of the baby, and live your life in the best way possible. You're not responsible for his actions, only he is. The same for you. I see you taking responsibility, and being the mature adult in this. Sounds like he STILL hasn't gown up yet. Gotten older, yes, but grown up... Nope.

Answer 2

Wise4myage | 64 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Yoda

He's bitter and can't let go. If you can cut him out of you and your sons lives forever, than you should.

Answer 3

Brainsbeforebeauty | 55 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Guru

Because that's what Narcissistic people do. You can't ever get through to someone like that. You sound like you've already done the right thing by disassociating yourself from him other than for your child. About the only thing you can do with people like that. And he can lie, but eventually people always find out the truth when they gotta deal with it/that person themselves...

Answer 4

silvermoon84

Explorer

Because people (of both genders) will often talk shit to disguise their own shortcomings in the relationship. It’s always easier to blame the other person even when the guilty party knows they’re wrong. Granted I only know your side of the story, but it sounds like he knows he was wrong but is too big of a dick to admit it, so he’s shifting all of the blame on you instead.

Answer 5

potatoiswhoiam | 110 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Yoda

Because he's a toxic person and trying to find logic in toxic behavior isn't gonna lead you anywhere. . another reason might be that everyone has their own viewpoints, you can't change how he sees things, even if that's the most unfair opinion in the world.

Answer 6

luvgirlfarts6969

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Dck head

Asker

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Yes I know that. But in your opinion why do you think he's doing this? It's been months since we broke up and I do not bother this man at all.

Answer 7

Asker

Yes I know that. But in your opinion why do you think he's doing this? It's been months since we broke up and I do not bother this man at all.

If he's over me and moved on why is he STILL talking shit about me to others?

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