Would you consider this manipulative?

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My boyfriend had blew up at me recently over the smallest thing. I made a mistake, that was fixable at that and he starts to go off on me. Saying that I don’t have his best interest at heart. That I don’t really care about him because if I did I wouldn’t have made the mistake and that mistakes shouldn’t happen when it comes to me doing something for him and then he says “fuck you” We were arguing over the phone but I was trying to be calm about it. He continued to get loud while I tried to explain that it wasn’t as serious as he was making it, but after he said “fuck you”. I hung up on him. Sent him a text saying he never had to talk to me again if he felt that way and I eventually blocked him. It was like despite the smallest mistake, which was fixed, I have always been the best girlfriend I could be for him. Being there for him, encouraging him etc but one mistake made him say “fuck” me and It hurt to hear that. He texted me from another number saying “Why would you block me over that? If you love me why would you block me?” And it’s like he really didn’t think he overreacted or felt as if what he said wasn’t wrong.

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JustTheTrue

Xper 6

It depends. To me it seemed like he ask you to do him a favor on something and you fail to accomplish it. He got upset which is understable, but he shouldn’t had argue that much. If it was me, I would talk to the girl on how did she fell to accomplish that. Depending on her answering I would either forgive or just not ask her for anymore favors as she might not be someone I can depend on you know. She will notice that as time goes on that I lost my trust on asking her for a favor.
I’m the type who deal with things calmly without the need to argue.

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This is literally what happened. He writes songs/raps so he submitted a song of his to a radio station and he was sent a link from that radio station, asking him to send the link to three people to have them vote on how they feel about the song. I was one of the three he trusted to send it to. Now when he sent it, I was getting my hair done at the time, so my head was twisted, while trying to read the messages that began to pop up on my phone after hitting the link to vote, so many messages popped up before you could even vote on if you thought the track needed work, was trash or if it was a hit. So while I was about to vote it as a hit, another message popped up randomly, still related to the song and I slipped up and hit that it needed work. I told him about it as soon as I made the mistake and I told him to resend it so I could revote. He gets upset and starts yelling all
Those things so it wasn’t a matter of me not getting the job done. It was literally a mistake.

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JustTheTrue

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I get that he got frustrated, but he need to learn that sometimes people make mistake. In this case, I don’t think it is a big deal.
If I tell my girl to upvote one of my projects and she mistakenly downvoted. It is one vote and I wouldn’t care. I will just tell her go upvote my other work to make up for it in a playful way meaning that she doesn’t have to since it isn’t something that important you know. He just needs to calm down lol.

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Asker

This is literally what happened. He writes songs/raps so he submitted a song of his to a radio station and he was sent a link from that radio station, asking him to send the link to three people to have them vote on how they feel about the song. I was one of the three he trusted to send it to. Now when he sent it, I was getting my hair done at the time, so my head was twisted, while trying to read the messages that began to pop up on my phone after hitting the link to vote, so many messages popped up before you could even vote on if you thought the track needed work, was trash or if it was a hit. So while I was about to vote it as a hit, another message popped up randomly, still related to the song and I slipped up and hit that it needed work. I told him about it as soon as I made the mistake and I told him to resend it so I could revote. He gets upset and starts yelling all
Those things so it wasn’t a matter of me not getting the job done. It was literally a mistake.

Answer 3

JustTheTrue

I get that he got frustrated, but he need to learn that sometimes people make mistake. In this case, I don’t think it is a big deal.
If I tell my girl to upvote one of my projects and she mistakenly downvoted. It is one vote and I wouldn’t care. I will just tell her go upvote my other work to make up for it in a playful way meaning that she doesn’t have to since it isn’t something that important you know. He just needs to calm down lol.

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Gagname | 84 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

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A lot of times when people get into arguments/disagreements they! re not caused because of the thing that triggered the argument/disagreement; instead it’s because of some other underlying and “until-now-not-brought-up“ issues.

If what has already transpired between you and him is “too much/too far“ and not recoverable then tell him to leave you alone and never contact you again and forget about him.

However if you still want to see if you can salvage Tver relationship then Syr didn’t ABF discuss the real reasons surrounding his blowup & freak out with you.

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Gagname

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*salvage the relationship then sit down and discuss

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Gagname

*salvage the relationship then sit down and discuss

Answer 6

kimchimelo

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It is sometimes best to just de-escalate instead of making things worse for small things. I do not know what mistake you made, but if it did hurt him then simply give him some time to cool. Blocking him will make things worse for the both of you.

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StormTheWolf

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Honestly, give him time to calm down. From there it'll sort out.

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socksguy

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Yes... its narcissistic. Couples truly in love don't treat others like that... move on. He pops off like that over something so small? What's going go happen when it's a big issue.

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Don-_-Don

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What was the "mistake"? Consdering that it's as small as you say I'm sure you wouldn't mind sharing it with us.

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