My ex girlfriend says she needs to think about getting back together with me, she says she still loves me, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

So me and my ex of 3 years have been broken up for 3 months. Recently she had said that she still has feelings for me and that she misses and loves me. She said she thinks about me a lot. She even asked if we could kiss! We been talking for a bit now and when I asked about us getting back together she said she honestly needs time to think about it. Should I jus cut communication and give her the time? I really want her back but I don’t wanna push her away.

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[Gagname]

You guys went out for 3 years and only have been broken up for 3 months, so it makes sense that she has might still have feelings for you and miss you.

But her asking if you guys can kiss but needing time to think about getting back together? hell no... this is a RED FLAG because you guys have been talking for awhile. Asking you if you guys can kiss sounds like she needs some action from SOMEBODY, and she knows she can probably get it from you.

I know you want her back and don’t want to push her away, but you shouldn’t let her disrespect you and use you as a friends with benefits. Tell her “No, I don’t to the Friends With Benefits thing.” And stop the doing the friendly “talk on the phone thing” with her (you don’t want to be “Friend Zoned”).

Basically, establish boundaries that you‘re not someone she can use as a friends with benefits for sex/physical affection, or a male friend she can use for good vibes and an emotional pick-me-up.

One more thing: don’t bring up wanting to be bf-gf with her... she already knows you want that—and remember to stop doing the phone talks with her—and if she brings it up, only believe her if she’s sure about it and tells you something like, “I’ve decided I want us to get back together.”

[TemptedTerry]

For your own sanity, you need to have an understanding that she truly wants you. You cannot be afraid to push her away.

Have the strength to stop contacting her. Right now she is fully aware she has the power. And she might like that power more than she likes you.

If you show strength, the power aspect gets removed, and she will respect you more. That can only increase the chances of her getting back together with you.

If you don't take a stand, the foundation of any relationship you have with her may well have rotten foundations, which can only lead to heartache.

Your life is yours, make sure you surround yourself with people that want you in their life, and not a power trip.

[Avicenna]

Decide what YOU want first.

[Iron_Man]

she's BI POLAR MOVE ON

[In_Trance]

block her and move on