Can I convince her that she might as well stay for the kid’s sake?
I don’t think it’s healthy for anybody involved to live a lie. She’d be staying out of curtesy for you not the child. Children are as strong as you allow them to be. Teaching your child the realities of the world will only help them in the long run. You two can co parent and your child can receive twice as much love in both homes. I’d rather my child be able to see both I and his father happy apart then to force one person to lie to them until they can’t anymore.
Wouldn’t this make her want to fight more for the marriage especially since we’ve almost been married for 2 years?
I think two years is around the time marriages get difficult. You two can split up and give it some time to settle so you can see if it’s possible to reconcile. Here’s the questions you need to ask yourself, does she have reason to want to leave? Do you believe it can be worked out? If so express it to her but I can not stress enough that you do not sell yourself short. Just because she wants to leave you it doesn’t mean you aren’t worth fighting for, it doesn’t mean you aren’t a great person with good qualities it just means you two aren’t meant to be. Children have a way of settling the foundation. And those doctors appointments without you will get lonely. Make sure you speak to her and give her the respect she deserves if she would rather leave. You have rights so look into it when it comes to your child. She can’t keep you from them despite what you think, your children are worth fighting for.
Yes, I am sure. But we were on the rocks before the double news in a month span for the last couple of months as I was pushing for a kid. How can I convince her to stay for the kid’s sake?
You'd need to address the specific reasons she wanted to leave and convince her you'd be able to remain together.
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We were in the process of saving and working on our marriage before I found out both news. Are you absolutely sure on your take this can’t be worked out in which we stay married and together at least during infant years?
You said she had already filed. So the paperwork is already in the system. I mean, you can try... but you'd just be doing it for the kid's sake... not your or hers happiness.
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