Girl some of what you said didn’t even make sense. You said “Secure people won't leave because of that. They'll leave because they know that they're not being valued as a person. Insecure anxious and avoidant people made me because there are emotional needs that will never met before they got involve another person.” okay so with that being said, feeling like someone doesn’t prioritize you in a relationship does not make a person insecure “unless they are super clingy and need attention 24/7.” But if someone doesn’t prioritize you in the relationship, that means they don’t value you as a person! You’re an OPTION to them To prioritize means you are there for your partner when you can and not when it’s just convenient for you but based off what you said about never being in a relationship, I can see why you would give such and ignorant answer.
I don't think you get it. Unless you are secure as a person your name out of 10 times want to want a person to give you things that a parent is supposed to give. If you feel that way then again look within yourself because all I have to do is the projection of self. That doesn't make you an option. It means they got lives of Their Own. If you feel that way that means you don't value yourself as a person. It is not the other. If the person wanted to see you as an option they wouldn't even consider you in the first place. that means that you're very needy as a person. And what you have to understand that not everybody is needy like you. That does not mean they don't care about you. It just means that you and that person is not compatible. Trust me when I say, if I met a person like you I wouldn't be involved with someone like you because you were run because you can't handle that. That right there tells me right there about you is immaturity.
There must be balanced. And what you're talkin about is prioritize meaning me look at me everything is about me. That's not balanced. That means it's all about you. And if a person don't look at you your go to someone else. Trust me when I say, they would rather for you to leave if it makes you happy than for you to stay and make yourself and them miserable.
That tells me right there you're insecure. Not because you're needy. If you ever have any type of abandonment issues or neglect that you had as a child then I highly suggest you seek a therapist and a counselor before you ever make an attempt to go into a serious relationship. But don't try to make out my lack of experience as a reason for you to feel for you to try and disrespect me. I could tell just by how you responded that you're unhappy with yourself. And whatever problems that you had with other people you're the one that needs to fix it.
You're 19 years old. By you being young you're going to still that way. But as you mature and grow a little you will learn that when you love a person love requires sacrifice. It is not me sentence and right now you're focusing on the you in a relationship. That's why it doesn't work. Because instead of you working with the other person on that relationship, you just choose to project your insecurities on another. So the one that's making you unhappy right now is yourself.
Learn to First Love Yourself. And learn to better communicate. There is a major difference between a person who was neglected and abused you versus somebody who is over all happy and learn to share that happiness with you by living their life. You are a part of their life. But you are not their life. So what you need to learn to do before you decide to talk about how I'm making an ignorant comment is to look at your ignorant comment first. You are not to make a person your life. Focus on the happiness in your life, only then can you share that same happiness with another.
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