Can you explain the mindset behind women who cheat, leave their SO, and then come crawling back when things don't work out?

[JSmuve]

It's because their SO isn't addressing all of her emotional needs so she cheats with a guy who does meet them.

If he has performance issues in bed or too tired for sex, then she'll cheat with a guy who makes her feel desired and gives her orgasmsIf he's a pushover or boring, then she'll cheat with a guy who's exciting and more masculineIf he's quick-tempered or verbally abusive, then she'll cheat with a guy who provides her with a feeling of safety. Either way, she cheats with a guy who fills in a hole in her relationship. She comes back because the guy she cheated with doesn't want a committed relationship with her and she fears abandonment too much to be single. It's like a baseball player trying to steal second, but the second baseman already has the ball. She's got no choice but to run back to first to tag up before she tries again. The guy that takes her back similarly has a fear of abandonment and if she addresses emotional needs that are important to him, then it'll be too tempting for him to take her back instead of trying to find another woman who addresses his needs as well as she does because who knows how long that'll take. Sometimes a bird in hand is better than no bird at all.

[Anonymous]

Cheaters are ruthless opportunists, if their partners aren't consequent enough to cheat on them as well or to dump them immediately. They will exploit their partner as much as possible.
My ex cheated on me, her best friend informed me about that. I slept with a coworker and her best friend in following months. However this kind of open relationship my ex wanted so much, wasn't satisfying for my her. This is how eternal love we promised each other turned in less than half year in a shit show and years of her hatred after breakup, just because I dared to act in same way she did. Some people think they are always better than others, expecting loyalty and fairness from this type of person isn't more than childish naivety.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I agree that's so wrong when people do that... Which leads me to my next point. .women aren't the only ones that do this,men do it too...Cheaters do... Because cheating itself is an act of selfishness, only thinking of their own happiness /unhappiness or own feelings not that of their partner, same could be said when it doesn't work out and they try to crawl back to the person they needlessly hurt out of selfishness. They're thinking only about what THEY want, what's best for THEM...

[Daniela1982]

I'd rather know the mind set of the idiot guys who take them back when his cheating bitch comes crawling back out of the woodwork and begs for forgiveness.

[Unit1]

Oh, this one's easy to understand.

say she's in a relationship with Ben (and in this case you could be Ben). But then she meets Jeremy Keems (Meeks but letters swapped out). She finds Jeremy more physically attractive or he has more money or he's bigger or all of that in one package. of course he's a prick but she doesn't care and goes after him, sleeps with him and after a while Keems beats her up and tosses her out. So that is when she comes crawling back to Ben and begs for forgiveness and being taken back. If Ben has self respect, he'll obviously not take her back. Ben has not been her number one and after that Keems thing he'll never be number one for her.

what you just learned is called hypergamy (marrying up)

[BruceJender]

This isn’t exclusive to women.

People have the knack of looking back with rose-tinted glasses, especially when things don’t turn out the way they imagined.

I would also argue that distance causes us to grow fonder of our past.

[sheikalana]

This is exactly what men do when they cheat and things don't work out for them. They come crawling and act like little puppies.

[Shuttlebus78]

Lack of self control, forethought and weak morals. Men who cheat are the same way.

[Anonymous]

Failed attempt at hypergamy. Women are always looking to get the best possible partner with taking the least amount of risk. This is just a fair warning to men, your woman is probably on the lookout

[Annieee18]

They're just selfish af.

[bracins]

Hi! I’m sorry to say this but its 21st century, being selfish, ruthless, ignorant, careless with zero emotions is the only way to go!

[Hangry22]

Men do the same thing too. Don't know why