I have worked hard to keep a roof over my head without handouts and buying furniture on my own, maintain my way in life. But he begrudged me for all of that. Simple things like asking him for help around the flat when he moved in was meet with contempt. He has a mindset that I'm the woman of the house and he's the man! I might not have minded if he held up his end of the finances. When he started to earn more he started to spend more on himself and made excuses as to why he couldn't help.
So we lead separate lives until well I stopped loving him.
I realise when he returned it was to show me how successful he is now and how better he is than me for not giving up and it was worth something in the end. But he failed to realise that whilst he and I were together I didn't end things for his struggle I ended it simply because he attacked me constantly. He was irritated simply because I took a regular job which gave me a steady income despite the mental stress... I understand being an entrepreneur is hard work and it can take many years before you reap the rewards. He forgot how to be kind.
I would have stayed if he at least showed he cared but he was only ever thinking about himself.
I see now that his anger was out of frustration and jealousy. Which I felt unwarranted when I had at times given him my last. My requests of him were always small.
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