Advice to meet people?

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Basically, I'm 27 and I haven't had a relationship serious or casual since I was a teenager. I have difficulty with self-esteem, particularly around partners, and I know that I have a lot of baggage as a person and I think that my awareness of that baggage makes me not want to intrude on other people's lives with my bullshit so that prevents me from making moves.

So, outside of dating apps do you have any advice on how to find people who can be prospective partners, or how to breach the topic with people you don't know very well. Like how the fuck do I ask the cute cashier at the store I go to every week if she's single and if I can take her on a date?

Answer 1

Anonymous

Takes guts and a lot of rejection! 😃😃

I lack some of the bravery tho so I normally go for guys I'm slightly familiar with cause that's easier c: like guys in my classes.
People hate on dating sites a lot but if you are patient... something good CAN come from it.

wheist9095

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Yeah, I know dating sites are the new norm and I've heard a lot of success stories from them. But, I've tried them on and off over the years and I've never had success even getting a date. It's just disheartening after a while, just day after day not a fucking like or a match even in a relatively big city for my state. Like 75-80,000 people which isn't very big but still
Opinion Owner

21 d
Awe :c have you tried any of the paid ones? I feel like the people on those take it a little more serious!
wheist9095

21 d
Not really, I paid for tinder gold once or twice, paid version of bumble. But never like eharmony. The pandemic is really killed my social circle too, do you have any advice on good ways to approach new people?
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Opinion Owner

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I'm honestly terrible at approaching people so I usually rely on class or clubs of sorts to break the ice. Like I did a kick boxing class just to get out and meet new people. Going to the dog park is fun too cause you get to talk to cute people and let your dogs play together! :p that's what I do at least! Cause starting a conversation out of nothing with a stranger is SO awkward for me :p
wheist9095

21 d
Fair enough, a little bit of familiarity does a world of work. Common locations, without a professional barrier. And social anxiety, I know that one all too well... How about this, if a stranger came up and started talking to you, what would make you feel more open to that person? Like... Aside from physical appearance, everybody has their own preference after all, or at least something you know that I should avoid that I might not be aware of
wheist9095

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Also, you can just DM me if you want. I promise not to make it weird haha

Answer 2

wheist9095

Yeah, I know dating sites are the new norm and I've heard a lot of success stories from them. But, I've tried them on and off over the years and I've never had success even getting a date. It's just disheartening after a while, just day after day not a fucking like or a match even in a relatively big city for my state. Like 75-80,000 people which isn't very big but still

Answer 3

Opinion Owner

Awe :c have you tried any of the paid ones? I feel like the people on those take it a little more serious!

Answer 4

wheist9095

Not really, I paid for tinder gold once or twice, paid version of bumble. But never like eharmony. The pandemic is really killed my social circle too, do you have any advice on good ways to approach new people?

Answer 5

Opinion Owner

I'm honestly terrible at approaching people so I usually rely on class or clubs of sorts to break the ice. Like I did a kick boxing class just to get out and meet new people. Going to the dog park is fun too cause you get to talk to cute people and let your dogs play together! :p that's what I do at least! Cause starting a conversation out of nothing with a stranger is SO awkward for me :p

Answer 6

wheist9095

Fair enough, a little bit of familiarity does a world of work. Common locations, without a professional barrier. And social anxiety, I know that one all too well... How about this, if a stranger came up and started talking to you, what would make you feel more open to that person? Like... Aside from physical appearance, everybody has their own preference after all, or at least something you know that I should avoid that I might not be aware of

Answer 7

wheist9095

Also, you can just DM me if you want. I promise not to make it weird haha

Answer 8

TheFlak38 | 299 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Guru

if you have to struggle to get a woman then you're playing a rigged game. forget it. it's over for you.

wheist9095

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All right I'm going to need you to expand on that answer a little bit.

Answer 9

wheist9095

All right I'm going to need you to expand on that answer a little bit.

Answer 10

DiegoO | 428 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Guru

In these times, ?

I would rather wait.

DiegoO

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Don't go online. Trust me, is easier to go oldschool.

Answer 11

DiegoO

Don't go online. Trust me, is easier to go oldschool.

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