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yeah. wait till after finals
The thing is, I've stuck with him at his worst times. He is broke, has no job or education (although is working on it) lived with his parents at 25 to study etc. I've been through it all. I want to do this because I don't feel like Im getting much out of the relationship
Those are all good reasons, just maybe it would be best for both of you if you just ride it out for a few weeks. And you let him know you were trying to pick a good time.
@Telekinetic-Potato With all due respect, I disagree. She has to get rid of this guy. No productive person should be with a productive person. Not only are they clearly incompatible sexually, but she is also suffering from other toxic trait of his (wanting a threesome for instance). Add the fact that he is broke and lacks education pretty much sums up his level of ambition and aspirations to become better. Which is low. She should get with someone who not only fulfills her needs, but isn't an actual loser who is leeching off of her. She is better off finding someone who is on the right path in life and who knows how to have a healthy relationship
No productive person should be with an unproductive person*
@TruthBringer OK that's fair, but she's also going through a time in her life where she needs stability. No one needs the weight of a breakup occupying bandwidth on their mind when they're about to be taking their finals. It's just senseless. Just because he's not compatable as a long term partner doesn't mean that they have nothing they offer eachother. Also, in this guy's defence (just playing devils advocate this time) she said that he's trying right now so if he's putting actual effort in, it would be just a little fucked up to get a place together and kick him right out. Obviously I have no idea what's really going on there and the first person you need to be fair to in this situation is yourself. This guy fucked up already, you didn't. Whatever you decide, just remember that. Make sure that whatever you do next you're not gonna regret it because if you're not careful people will end up costing you a lot of time (life progress) or more.
And to be clear, I just think you should break up with him after your finals
Honestly don’t see any way to solve this. Even though he may actually improve he way he treats her in and out of the bedroom, he already made his bed by letting her know he wants to fuck other women, and/or have her getting fucked by someone else. Which is not something any monogamous person would do. If she wants a long term monogamous partner, then it’s in her best interest to distance herself from him already and eventually end the relationship. If she can pull it off before her exams, then all power to her. If she wants to focus on her exams first, then she should simply distance herself emotionally and physically. Pretty much reflecting her amount of efforts to his. So in the end, either they will have a fight or they become somewhat of roommates.
I mean, if you've been someone for a year and a half, I know it will hurt a lot, too. There's no getting out of that, sadly.
A year and a half
talk to him.. Explain what is going on and if he loves you, he will do his best to help you cope with the stress and exams...dont give up after only 2 months
Just be very careful that if u put education before another human being that that alone will be your downfall turning point to failers to come. People are a wrapper to just throw in the garbage can , except a minute few I guess
Not a wrapper *
@ragequeenso whats the issues u having and whats the causes?
I've you've read previous questions I've asked you'll know. Otherwise I'll sum it up here:1. Doesn't try to please me during sex2. rarely does things for me3. never keeps promises, there is no consistency in his words4. is cocky and thinks he is better than everyone5. rarely has sex w me6. mentions 3sums when he can't please me7. puts me down by jokingly saying Im fat, ugly
@ragequeenoh my god how did u end up with him for a year and half dump the guy do u have funds and place to move out to? remove the toxic from your life.
The other thing is have you ever moved? So instead of studying for exams you're going to be packing and moving boxes for the next 3 weeks. It takes forever.
Thanks, so what you are going to do?
In her defense, he's not a great guy.