If you and an ex agree to be friends?

Question

So you follow her on social media then he deletes you and basically tells you to stay out of her life. Do you think she means it?

Yes obviously

No she's testing you

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GirlGuy

Answer 1

OlderAndWiser | 1.9K opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

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WHY would you want to remain friends with an ex?

Asker

16 d
Because I like her as a person
OlderAndWiser

16 d
Okay, but there are many people in the world who you might potentially like.

When you start dating a new girl, how will she feel about you hanging out with your ex? Or if she starts dating, what if her new guy doesn't understand why she need to hang with you?

Are you prepared to hear her talking about the new guy who is SO incredible? How will you feel when it is obvious that she has started having sex with him?

How do you know that she isn't holding on to a secret hope that you two will reunite eventually? And maybe remaining "friends" with you is holding her back from moving forward?

It is POSSIBLE to remain friends with an ex but there are so many potential problems that it is logical to cut your ties and not maintain contact with her. However, I understand that decisions about these matters are usually made on the basis of feelings, not logic, so you may not want to hear this advice. But consider this. . . if you are making this decision on the basis of feelings, does that partially confirm the potential pitfalls that I observed?
Asker

16 d
OK but why was she cool with being friends at the start, then after a few weeks all I did was follow her and comment on a pic she posted, then 2 weeks after that she told me that she removed me off social media for a reason and to stay out of her life 🤷‍♂️
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OlderAndWiser

15 d
She met somebody else and she didn't need you as a fallback plan anymore.
Asker

15 d
Doubt it, that was too quick.
OlderAndWiser

15 d
Did she initiate the break up?
Asker

15 d
It was mutual
OlderAndWiser

15 d
Sometimes, people offer that "let's be friends" to demonstrate that they don't hate you and to try to placate their own guilt but then they realize it's a mistake and regret having said it. Maybe she's already got someone else in her life now.

Answer 2

Asker

Because I like her as a person

Answer 3

OlderAndWiser

Okay, but there are many people in the world who you might potentially like.

When you start dating a new girl, how will she feel about you hanging out with your ex? Or if she starts dating, what if her new guy doesn't understand why she need to hang with you?

Are you prepared to hear her talking about the new guy who is SO incredible? How will you feel when it is obvious that she has started having sex with him?

How do you know that she isn't holding on to a secret hope that you two will reunite eventually? And maybe remaining "friends" with you is holding her back from moving forward?

It is POSSIBLE to remain friends with an ex but there are so many potential problems that it is logical to cut your ties and not maintain contact with her. However, I understand that decisions about these matters are usually made on the basis of feelings, not logic, so you may not want to hear this advice. But consider this. . . if you are making this decision on the basis of feelings, does that partially confirm the potential pitfalls that I observed?

Answer 4

Asker

OK but why was she cool with being friends at the start, then after a few weeks all I did was follow her and comment on a pic she posted, then 2 weeks after that she told me that she removed me off social media for a reason and to stay out of her life 🤷‍♂️

Answer 5

OlderAndWiser

She met somebody else and she didn't need you as a fallback plan anymore.

Answer 6

Asker

Doubt it, that was too quick.

Answer 7

OlderAndWiser

Did she initiate the break up?

Answer 8

Asker

It was mutual

Answer 9

OlderAndWiser

Sometimes, people offer that "let's be friends" to demonstrate that they don't hate you and to try to placate their own guilt but then they realize it's a mistake and regret having said it. Maybe she's already got someone else in her life now.

Answer 10

ManWithThePlan123

Xper 7

I would listen to what she is saying. Even if this is some sort of test, (which lets be real here this isn't) do you really want to hang out with the kind of girl that will constantly stress you out and test whatever in your relationship?

Asker

16 d
You think it isn't a test?
ManWithThePlan123

16 d
No I do not, generally people are serious when they want to be left alone.
Asker

16 d
So why did she agree and then change her mind like that
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ManWithThePlan123

16 d
I don't know did you do something in between? Did something happen that you couldn't possibly know that changed her mind? I certainly don't know
Asker

16 d
I commented on one of her artwork, and she said not to and to stay out of her life 🤷‍♀️
ManWithThePlan123

16 d
I would just steer clear my friend.
Asker

16 d
Then why has more people voted that she's testing me 😂
ManWithThePlan123

16 d
Hell if you want to believe the majority go ahead, I'm just here to give my opinion.

Answer 11

Asker

You think it isn't a test?

Answer 12

ManWithThePlan123

No I do not, generally people are serious when they want to be left alone.

Answer 13

Asker

So why did she agree and then change her mind like that

Answer 14

ManWithThePlan123

I don't know did you do something in between? Did something happen that you couldn't possibly know that changed her mind? I certainly don't know

Answer 15

Asker

I commented on one of her artwork, and she said not to and to stay out of her life 🤷‍♀️

Answer 16

ManWithThePlan123

I would just steer clear my friend.

Answer 17

Asker

Then why has more people voted that she's testing me 😂

Answer 18

ManWithThePlan123

Hell if you want to believe the majority go ahead, I'm just here to give my opinion.

Answer 19

whatdoyouwantt | 159 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Xper 6

Probably yea. Don’t see a reason why they wouldn’t

Asker

15 d
Wouldn't what?

Answer 20

Asker

Wouldn't what?

Answer 21

BlackPrince21

Xper 1

She wants to be friends

Asker

16 d
Did u even read my question

Answer 22

Asker

Did u even read my question

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