If you and an ex agree to be friends?

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So you follow her on social media then he deletes you and basically tells you to stay out of her life. Do you think she means it?

Yes obviously

No she's testing you

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OlderAndWiser | 2K opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

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WHY would you want to remain friends with an ex?

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Because I like her as a person
OlderAndWiser

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Okay, but there are many people in the world who you might potentially like.

When you start dating a new girl, how will she feel about you hanging out with your ex? Or if she starts dating, what if her new guy doesn't understand why she need to hang with you?

Are you prepared to hear her talking about the new guy who is SO incredible? How will you feel when it is obvious that she has started having sex with him?

How do you know that she isn't holding on to a secret hope that you two will reunite eventually? And maybe remaining "friends" with you is holding her back from moving forward?

It is POSSIBLE to remain friends with an ex but there are so many potential problems that it is logical to cut your ties and not maintain contact with her. However, I understand that decisions about these matters are usually made on the basis of feelings, not logic, so you may not want to hear this advice. But consider this. . . if you are making this decision on the basis of feelings, does that partially confirm the potential pitfalls that I observed?
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OK but why was she cool with being friends at the start, then after a few weeks all I did was follow her and comment on a pic she posted, then 2 weeks after that she told me that she removed me off social media for a reason and to stay out of her life 🤷‍♂️
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OlderAndWiser

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She met somebody else and she didn't need you as a fallback plan anymore.
Asker

1 y
Doubt it, that was too quick.
OlderAndWiser

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Did she initiate the break up?
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It was mutual
OlderAndWiser

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Sometimes, people offer that "let's be friends" to demonstrate that they don't hate you and to try to placate their own guilt but then they realize it's a mistake and regret having said it. Maybe she's already got someone else in her life now.

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Asker

Because I like her as a person

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OlderAndWiser

Okay, but there are many people in the world who you might potentially like.

When you start dating a new girl, how will she feel about you hanging out with your ex? Or if she starts dating, what if her new guy doesn't understand why she need to hang with you?

Are you prepared to hear her talking about the new guy who is SO incredible? How will you feel when it is obvious that she has started having sex with him?

How do you know that she isn't holding on to a secret hope that you two will reunite eventually? And maybe remaining "friends" with you is holding her back from moving forward?

It is POSSIBLE to remain friends with an ex but there are so many potential problems that it is logical to cut your ties and not maintain contact with her. However, I understand that decisions about these matters are usually made on the basis of feelings, not logic, so you may not want to hear this advice. But consider this. . . if you are making this decision on the basis of feelings, does that partially confirm the potential pitfalls that I observed?

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Asker

OK but why was she cool with being friends at the start, then after a few weeks all I did was follow her and comment on a pic she posted, then 2 weeks after that she told me that she removed me off social media for a reason and to stay out of her life 🤷‍♂️

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OlderAndWiser

She met somebody else and she didn't need you as a fallback plan anymore.

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Asker

Doubt it, that was too quick.

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OlderAndWiser

Did she initiate the break up?

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Asker

It was mutual

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OlderAndWiser

Sometimes, people offer that "let's be friends" to demonstrate that they don't hate you and to try to placate their own guilt but then they realize it's a mistake and regret having said it. Maybe she's already got someone else in her life now.

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ManWithThePlan123

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I would listen to what she is saying. Even if this is some sort of test, (which lets be real here this isn't) do you really want to hang out with the kind of girl that will constantly stress you out and test whatever in your relationship?

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You think it isn't a test?
ManWithThePlan123

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No I do not, generally people are serious when they want to be left alone.
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So why did she agree and then change her mind like that
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ManWithThePlan123

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I don't know did you do something in between? Did something happen that you couldn't possibly know that changed her mind? I certainly don't know
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1 y
I commented on one of her artwork, and she said not to and to stay out of her life 🤷‍♀️
ManWithThePlan123

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I would just steer clear my friend.
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1 y
Then why has more people voted that she's testing me 😂
ManWithThePlan123

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Hell if you want to believe the majority go ahead, I'm just here to give my opinion.

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You think it isn't a test?

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ManWithThePlan123

No I do not, generally people are serious when they want to be left alone.

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Asker

So why did she agree and then change her mind like that

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ManWithThePlan123

I don't know did you do something in between? Did something happen that you couldn't possibly know that changed her mind? I certainly don't know

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Asker

I commented on one of her artwork, and she said not to and to stay out of her life 🤷‍♀️

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ManWithThePlan123

I would just steer clear my friend.

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Asker

Then why has more people voted that she's testing me 😂

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ManWithThePlan123

Hell if you want to believe the majority go ahead, I'm just here to give my opinion.

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whatdoyouwantt | 182 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

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Probably yea. Don’t see a reason why they wouldn’t

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Wouldn't what?

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Wouldn't what?

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BlackPrince21

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She wants to be friends

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Did u even read my question

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Did u even read my question

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