Is it wrong to ask someone why they aren't sharing their relationship status with even one friend of theirs?

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We dated for 3 months.. she was always hot and cold.. like 4 times already.. got into a relationship.. I asked her whether she was sure.. she said she wanted it more than 50%.. then after a week.. I asked her can I share it with my best friends? She said yes, then after a week, she was in the middle of her college exams and on her periods.. and I just couldn't control as it's been two weeks and she hadn't told it to a single person in her life and asked her why.. She said that she was unsure and not 100% sure.. asked her when she would be.. She said she doesn't know.. asked her what can I do? Anything I can address? She broke up on call.. and I had to basically beg her to get back together as I felt that everything was my fault.. and we were friends for 2 weeks.. I asked her why're you ignoring my texts and so warm on call.. and sometimes cold on call too.. She stopped wanting to be friends.. And broke it off completely..

Did I do anything wrong? I keep wondering..

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15 d

Also, while getting back I told her I'll be vulnerable from now.. I won't be expecting anything from you.. you can tell your friends whenever you'd be comfortable..

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I was neck deep in it to be frank.. we used to talk for hours everyday and sometimes even 3 - 4 hrs.. It just felt natural.. And she called me perfect so many times.. and said that she was lucky to have me.. and would cling to me and won't let me go.. All of these..

Answer 1

Anonymous

You can’t force something that doesn’t fit, or push this girl into being with you. For whatever reason, she doesn’t want the relationship, but because you want it so much, you’re trying extremely hard for her to feel the same. Things don’t work that way, dude. You want someone who wants to be with you just as much, not that you have to beg for them to want to be with you. At this point, you need to leave her alone. You’ve done more than enough to try and keep her, and have gotten to such a pushy point. Stop. Let her go and focus on healing. If you’re meant to be then you will be, in the FUTURE. Right now though, you’re doing too much and only driving a deeper wedge between you two.

Asker

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I was neck deep in it to be frank.. we used to talk for hours everyday and sometimes even 3 - 4 hrs.. It just felt natural.. And she called me perfect so many times.. and said that she was lucky to have me.. and would cling to me and won't let me go.. All of these..
Asker

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And the reason she left was that she couldn't give as much love as I wanted her to..
Asker

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I felt the similar way which is why I wanted it to work..
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Opinion Owner

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I’m sorry dude, it really hurts when relationships fall apart and you can’t do anything about it. Maybe you haven’t outgrown her, but clearly she is in another place mentally and wanting to detach from you. I know it’s hard to let go, because of both the memories and the potential you saw for your relationship. But you have to live in the present and right now, she wants space and to be single. No matter how much it hurts you just have to respect that. She’s doing her own thing, so it’s time to start working on yourself. Healing, acceptance, forgiveness, etc.
Asker

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Yes.. You're right.. thanks a lot for your opinion..
Opinion Owner

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No worries! I wish you all the best, hopefully you can make peace with this break up..
Asker

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Thank you stranger! You as well!

Answer 2

Asker

I was neck deep in it to be frank.. we used to talk for hours everyday and sometimes even 3 - 4 hrs.. It just felt natural.. And she called me perfect so many times.. and said that she was lucky to have me.. and would cling to me and won't let me go.. All of these..

Answer 3

Asker

And the reason she left was that she couldn't give as much love as I wanted her to..

Answer 4

Asker

I felt the similar way which is why I wanted it to work..

Answer 5

Opinion Owner

I’m sorry dude, it really hurts when relationships fall apart and you can’t do anything about it. Maybe you haven’t outgrown her, but clearly she is in another place mentally and wanting to detach from you. I know it’s hard to let go, because of both the memories and the potential you saw for your relationship. But you have to live in the present and right now, she wants space and to be single. No matter how much it hurts you just have to respect that. She’s doing her own thing, so it’s time to start working on yourself. Healing, acceptance, forgiveness, etc.

Answer 6

Asker

Yes.. You're right.. thanks a lot for your opinion..

Answer 7

Opinion Owner

No worries! I wish you all the best, hopefully you can make peace with this break up..

Answer 8

Asker

Thank you stranger! You as well!

Answer 9

OlderAndWiser | 1.9K opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Influencer

Yes, you picked the wrong girl for a relationship, and when it was obvious that it wouldn't work, you tried to force it to happen.

OlderAndWiser

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Thanks for MHO!
Asker

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Welcome! After pondering on this a lot, I think that this was the simplest and also the accurate answer..
OlderAndWiser

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If you learned a lesson from the experience, then it is not a loss, because you have gained some wisdom.
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Asker

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Yes, I do have one question though.. we have been talking for four mouths by then even though we were only two weeks into relationship.. she said that she told two of her friends about talking to me.. But didn't say anything to them or told me when she'd be ready to tell her friends, I told I'm fine even if you'd tell one of your friends.. Maybe your best friend.. Over a text would be fine too..

Is it wrong to ask that? If it is then how would I go over it?

This answer would help me in my future relationships.. thanks again!
OlderAndWiser

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The point of you knowing that she is telling her friends is that it confirms that what you think you have - a relationship - is real to her, also, and she is proud to tell everyone about you. Why not focus more on having her introduce you to her friends? Wouldn't that be even more meaningful?
Asker

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Makes sense.. I'll remember it for the next time..

Answer 10

OlderAndWiser

Thanks for MHO!

Answer 11

Asker

Welcome! After pondering on this a lot, I think that this was the simplest and also the accurate answer..

Answer 12

OlderAndWiser

If you learned a lesson from the experience, then it is not a loss, because you have gained some wisdom.

Answer 13

Asker

Yes, I do have one question though.. we have been talking for four mouths by then even though we were only two weeks into relationship.. she said that she told two of her friends about talking to me.. But didn't say anything to them or told me when she'd be ready to tell her friends, I told I'm fine even if you'd tell one of your friends.. Maybe your best friend.. Over a text would be fine too..

Is it wrong to ask that? If it is then how would I go over it?

This answer would help me in my future relationships.. thanks again!

Answer 14

OlderAndWiser

The point of you knowing that she is telling her friends is that it confirms that what you think you have - a relationship - is real to her, also, and she is proud to tell everyone about you. Why not focus more on having her introduce you to her friends? Wouldn't that be even more meaningful?

Answer 15

Asker

Makes sense.. I'll remember it for the next time..

Answer 16

boggboss | 1.7K opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Master

She was unsure u kept on bugging her about it and she got scared

Asker

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And why did she get into a relationship? I asked her multiple times, are you sure.. Can I tell my friends about it.. She said yes..
boggboss

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Clearly she was either root ready to be in one or undecided about you either way she was not ready and either wanted to see if it would work or didn't know if it would
boggboss

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Saying somthing and it being true are 2 completely differnt things at the end off the day her actions showed she was still confused or thinking about it
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Asker

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True!! I didn't think of it like this.. and reason she broke up was she can't love me as much as I do her..
boggboss

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No she was undecided yes u fell for her first but that means u either needed to wait or end things if u was not happy pushing her to decide pushed her away
Asker

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I literally told her I'm willing to wait.. then she gave the same reason.. I have no idea.. I even told her that she's taking my decision into her own hands.. nvm.. I think I realised that it's gotta be a effort from both the sides..

Answer 17

Asker

And why did she get into a relationship? I asked her multiple times, are you sure.. Can I tell my friends about it.. She said yes..

Answer 18

boggboss

Clearly she was either root ready to be in one or undecided about you either way she was not ready and either wanted to see if it would work or didn't know if it would

Answer 19

boggboss

Saying somthing and it being true are 2 completely differnt things at the end off the day her actions showed she was still confused or thinking about it

Answer 20

Asker

True!! I didn't think of it like this.. and reason she broke up was she can't love me as much as I do her..

Answer 21

boggboss

No she was undecided yes u fell for her first but that means u either needed to wait or end things if u was not happy pushing her to decide pushed her away

Answer 22

Asker

I literally told her I'm willing to wait.. then she gave the same reason.. I have no idea.. I even told her that she's taking my decision into her own hands.. nvm.. I think I realised that it's gotta be a effort from both the sides..

Answer 23

Browneye57 | 656 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Master

Welcome to the female roller coaster. It is always and all about the FEELZ.
If you don't like it find a new one. One that REALLY wants you.

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KrakenAttackin | 179 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Guru

She wants to ride the cock carousel and is not fit for a relationship.

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In_Trance | 758 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

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Not wrong

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