My ex blocked me after seeing old pictures? Why?

Question

I reconnected with an ex after 3 years of us not talking. We were together or 7 years and I reconnected by writing her a letter. After about a month of her contemplating it.. we got in touch and talked a little online.

It went well and we just talked about old times -- teasing eachother, talking about what we've been up too, etc. After a couple hours she had to go. I sent her a couple old pictures of us together that I thought she'd love to have. I sent them more as, "remember when we did this?" pictures.

She blocked me right after and I have no idea why. I'm guessing the pictures triggered her? It just doesn't make any sense.. we were talking so nicely to eachother the day before and reconnecting. There was no drama.. it was all smiles. What happened? I can't figure out if she really just hates me or if she just is overwhelmed and needs time.

Answer 1

NathanDavis | 133 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

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If you ever did something wrong in the past, or you two had a lot of wrongs and that caused the breaked up... well, you just reminded her of it, by sending that picture

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AlgaeEater

1 y
We broke up because I fell ill. I had epilepsy but I didn't tell her about any of it. She wondered why I was acting so weird in the last month of our relationship and it was because I was having seizures. I was self conscious about them. I don't have them anymore and she knows the break up was something out of my control (it wasn't a fight or anything).

The pictures were just us together cuddling, or us at the zoo, or tulip fields, etc. Family times. They all had her with the biggest smile in the world in the pictures. I have no idea why she would be triggered from them
NathanDavis

1 y
So, it was seven years of relationship, and you could not get yourself to trust her with something that important about you?
AlgaeEater

1 y
She Knew I had epilepsy. But I had seizures only like once every 10 years.. so she never ever saw me have one. I never had one with her but I was diagnosed and talked about it with her.

During the last month, I started having a lot, and it affected my personality. I thought I could just ride them out. I was worried they'd scare her so I was like, "I'll just wait til they go away". I have trust in her.. but I didn't want her to worry about me. I wanted to be there for her.
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NathanDavis

1 y
Well, by my experience, I can tell you that significant others sometimes, want to and need you to share your burdens with them, whatever it is they want to be there for you and with you, for all of it.. some partners do not like to be pushed away, so making a decision for them on these things, can have a negative impact in the relationship.

And also, situtions like this... can be very scary for some partners, maybe they have a really hard time relating to it, and they don't feel capable of dealing with it, that could also make some people run away.
AlgaeEater

1 y
True, I should have shared my burdens, and I've even told her, "I know if I just opened up.. you would have been there for me just like I always was for you."

Now I'm left wondering.. wow did she really block me because the pictures made her sad and overwhelmed her? Or did she block me because she's really just DONE with me. I dont know because, why would she even try to talk to me in the first place? It seemed like she wanted to talk to me.
NathanDavis

1 y
My best guess is that maybe she wanted to focus on the present, and to see how you were doing now... the present and looking forward. So, making it about the past, again, could have been just too much for her.
AlgaeEater

1 y
Damn, well I wish she could have told me. I just want to make it about the present too. I just wanted to harmlessly give her an old picture I found funny.

I dont know what to do now.

Answer 2

AlgaeEater

We broke up because I fell ill. I had epilepsy but I didn't tell her about any of it. She wondered why I was acting so weird in the last month of our relationship and it was because I was having seizures. I was self conscious about them. I don't have them anymore and she knows the break up was something out of my control (it wasn't a fight or anything).

The pictures were just us together cuddling, or us at the zoo, or tulip fields, etc. Family times. They all had her with the biggest smile in the world in the pictures. I have no idea why she would be triggered from them

Answer 3

NathanDavis

So, it was seven years of relationship, and you could not get yourself to trust her with something that important about you?

Answer 4

AlgaeEater

She Knew I had epilepsy. But I had seizures only like once every 10 years.. so she never ever saw me have one. I never had one with her but I was diagnosed and talked about it with her.

During the last month, I started having a lot, and it affected my personality. I thought I could just ride them out. I was worried they'd scare her so I was like, "I'll just wait til they go away". I have trust in her.. but I didn't want her to worry about me. I wanted to be there for her.

Answer 5

NathanDavis

Well, by my experience, I can tell you that significant others sometimes, want to and need you to share your burdens with them, whatever it is they want to be there for you and with you, for all of it.. some partners do not like to be pushed away, so making a decision for them on these things, can have a negative impact in the relationship.

And also, situtions like this... can be very scary for some partners, maybe they have a really hard time relating to it, and they don't feel capable of dealing with it, that could also make some people run away.

Answer 6

AlgaeEater

True, I should have shared my burdens, and I've even told her, "I know if I just opened up.. you would have been there for me just like I always was for you."

Now I'm left wondering.. wow did she really block me because the pictures made her sad and overwhelmed her? Or did she block me because she's really just DONE with me. I dont know because, why would she even try to talk to me in the first place? It seemed like she wanted to talk to me.

Answer 7

NathanDavis

My best guess is that maybe she wanted to focus on the present, and to see how you were doing now... the present and looking forward. So, making it about the past, again, could have been just too much for her.

Answer 8

AlgaeEater

Damn, well I wish she could have told me. I just want to make it about the present too. I just wanted to harmlessly give her an old picture I found funny.

I dont know what to do now.

Answer 9

ProfessorOswin

Xper 4

She definitely thought you got in touch just to try and guilt her into a relationship again. Bad move bro.

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AlgaeEater

1 y
I mean it was 100% clear in the letter I wrote her that I wanted her back. I plainly even said it to her.

Thing is.. she still talked to me and unblocked me despite that. I was only blocked after the picture I sent. I wasn't trying to guilt, she knew what I wanted from the start

Answer 10

AlgaeEater

I mean it was 100% clear in the letter I wrote her that I wanted her back. I plainly even said it to her.

Thing is.. she still talked to me and unblocked me despite that. I was only blocked after the picture I sent. I wasn't trying to guilt, she knew what I wanted from the start

Answer 11

whatdoyouwantt | 182 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

Xper 7

Maybe she thought you want to try again and she's moved on already

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AlgaeEater

1 y
I mean she could have just told me that. If she was so over me then it wouldn’t be hard to talk to me as a friend.

Thing is.. she started talking to me again after I sent her the love letter. So she KNEW I wanted to get back together. She only re-blocked me after I sent old pictures of us.
whatdoyouwantt

1 y
Well then maybe you’ve reminded her of unpleasant times or something bad you did in the past so she blocked you to escape

Answer 12

AlgaeEater

I mean she could have just told me that. If she was so over me then it wouldn’t be hard to talk to me as a friend.

Thing is.. she started talking to me again after I sent her the love letter. So she KNEW I wanted to get back together. She only re-blocked me after I sent old pictures of us.

Answer 13

whatdoyouwantt

Well then maybe you’ve reminded her of unpleasant times or something bad you did in the past so she blocked you to escape

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