We had sex on second date, is he still interested in me?

Hi.. Met this guy I really like, he's 33 years old. Our first date went really well and we enjoyed it so much. We kissed on the first date. He asked for another date which was last Saturday to hang out watching movies at his place. So I came. We talked after the movie the suddenly we started making out and somehow I stopped cos I didn't want anything leads to sex. Told him it was too early but we made out again I said again that I couldn't this this, not because I don't want to but because I think we need to get to know each other better.

He decided to go out instead with me and we talked a lot of things for hours, till we finally hit back to his place and I asked if I could stay at his place cos it was already 2am and I couldn't possibly go home. He said no problem. Then at his house we talked again for hours and hours till morning.

When we were talking he said that he really likes me and he likes the fact that I took him out of his comfort zone. He likes hanging out with me cause I'm beautiful, smart, independent and really fun to be around. he can talk about a lot of things with me and really enjoy spending time with me. He told me that we should hang out more cause he wanted to get to know me better. he respects why I don't want to have sex with him. He said because I was trying to protect myself. He said he's a really passionate guy (He's a scorpion) and hope I could understand that.

After talking for hours, We made out and things got hot and heavy, in the end we had sex. After having sex, we slept together like lovers do. We cuddled and he kept staring into my eyes and he always kissed me on the cheek or in my forehead every once a while till we fell asleep. He would caress my hair and starts looking into my eyes and just smiles. Even when he woke up, he began kissing me on the cheek or in my forehead. We just laid there on the bed and stared into each others' eyes.

I left his place and when I got home , we started chatting again and told me how he had a great time with me last night..

My questions are:

1. Does he really like me and just not there for the sex? He told me twice that he really liked me. I just wanna make sure...

2. What should I do next? I don't want to be having sex all the time with him before we got exclusive. What should I tell him to make him understand this?

I don't wanna be his FWB.

3. Does his action like staring into my eyes, caressing my hair, or kising me on the cheek and forehead mean something?

4. Should I play hard to get? I really like this guy a lot.

5. Did I make a mistake by having sex with him? is there any chance we could be exclusive even tho we had sex on the second date?

Please help and thanks. appreciate it!


Most Helpful Guy

  • 1. He obviously respected you enough the first few times you said you wanted to stop and go slow. He likes you plenty.

    2. Don't over analyze it. Let him know his boundaries but freak out over him.

    3. He's letting you know he appreciates you. Don't let it overwhelm you.

    4. Playing hard to get won't solve anything, you'll just confuse him.

    5. It wasn't a mistake. Don't try to predict what he will do or how he will react, just enjoy yourself.

    • Hi.. Thanks for the answer:)

      How do I tell him his boundaries? what should I say to him that will make him not feel rejected?

    • The way you tell him his boundaries is the same way you tell anyone.

      Let him know if he's making you uncomfortable, but don't phrase it like "I'm not comfortable with you / us doing xxx...", maybe phrase it like " I'm not OK with xxx"

      The difference is that you don't mention HIM, so he won't feel like he's being punished.

    • Thanks again :)

Most Helpful Girl

  • I had a similar situation occur last night /today, I clearly started over analyzing and now here I am. Anyway after thinking about it and reading what you said, I am pretty confident that he isn't gonna bail and that we're both just really crushing on each other. Sex just happens whenever it happens. And if he judges you for doing the same thing he did, his opinion would be invalid and shouldn't even matter at that point. I'm rambling, I congratulate you on having an amazing night, I know I sure did.


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What Guys Said 1

  • It seems pretty clear to me that he likes you. He might have moved too quickly but I don't think he would be all sweet with cuddling and playing with your hair unless he liked you.

    If you want to drive him away then you can play hard to get.

    • Thanks :)

    • Should I stop having sex with him next time we hang out? What can I do or what can I say? I wanna know from diff male point of view:)

    • Why don't you go out somewhere with him, like dinner and a movie, and don't go to his place at the end of the night. If he likes you for you, he won't pressure you for sex. He will probably want you to come over, because you guys already hooked up, but hopefully he'll be okay with you not coming over.

What Girls Said 1

  • My mom gave it up on the first date with her now HUSBAND of six years.


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