Me and my ex had just hooked up for like two months and one day I went somewhere and I guess they had sex. so a week later he came and told me that they had sex . then three weeks after that my sister said she was prego but not by him by some other guy. so this happened ever since 2007 so I went on with the relationship until 2009 . now in 2011 the guy who she thought was the baby father isn't so the only person left is my ex. so every time when I hear people talk about he could be the father I get really emotionally and all I wanna do is cry. this has made me over the years start to not like my sister . I really need some advice of how to get over this . because its really causeing me problems in my current relationship because he thinks I still like my ex .and I don't I'm just mad because what they did was wrong and because I keep going with the relationship. someone please help.
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First let me say you are an amazing person for keeping it together, I could not! It is understandable to begin to feel hatred towards your sister you were betrayed by 2 people that you loved and who should never hurt you. You need to explain that to your current partner!
Honestly in my opinion there's not allot you can do in terms of real action - you can tell all those involved not to speak of your ex, and that you don't want to hear etc to keep it off your mind. But my advise is to start a journal (I do one online after sh*t went down with my ex I needed an outlet, an outlet that would just listen and not get sick of the same stuff) it really does help! Focus more on what YOU want! work towards getting that it will make you happy and keep your mind off it.
Basically F*** your ex F*** your sister do what's best for you, when it comes down to it they didn't give a f*** about your feelings when they slept together - yeah the chances of her getting pregnant were really slim but it happened.. you were the bigger person and forgave both of them so don't forget that!
I know there's not a lot of help coming from me here but I know everyone who reads this will be on your side!1