OK so here is a scenario.
You and your ex boyfriend/girlfriend had a long relationship. Had it's ups and downs, then it ended mutually.
You two were best friends and still are.
You have both seen other people. Dated other people, hooked up with other people, etc.
Now you've both experienced what it was like with different types of people, maybe similar to your ex or very different.
When you two come back and "connect" again or hang out, whatever. Lets say your ex boyfriend/girlfriend got out of a relationship and you weren't in one at the time and you two started talking again and reconnecting. Maybe one is scared to commit right away because they are afraid of repeating the past, yet they still want to keep you in their life, they still want to cuddle, kiss, maybe even get to have sex?
Do you consider yourself a second option because their past relationship(s) didn't work?
Or do you consider it fate, that after seeing what else was out there they and yourself included realized that no one can do what you two can do for each other.
Or do you have a different view on this kind of situation?
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Before I settled down with my husband of 10 yrs. He just got out of a relationship and I did too. We started dating right away, but I didn't want him as my rebound guy. So, I suddenly backed off and started dating other guys. After going out on several dates my mind just kept going back to him and he out ranked those guys. I ran back into his arms and, well we fell in love got married, had babies... However now we're divorced! lol But don't let that last part stop you, because we get along now and I still think he's a great man - just not with me. :-)0