basically - my ex broke up with me a year ago claiming he'd fallen out of love, and we go to the same uni - I have tried my best to get over it as much as possible but I see him every day and seem to have hit a wall...
After the break up, he refused to talk to me when I asked for closure- as there are somethings I wanted to get cleared up. He said he wanted to be friends, but since the break up generally avoids me a lot, but stares at me a bit... has invited me to his birthday - but if I try and have a normal conversation with him he just closes off within about 3 seconds - never asks anything back/ just stops talking after I ask "how are you?" and he's said "fine" Its awkward as hell, and I just want to talk it out and get on with my life.
How do you get round a guy like this? He literally talks to no one about his emotions/ anything personal... is there anything I can do?
How to handle a reserved ex?
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My ex is the same, I ended up being able to confront him one night on chat and he said 'he just doesn't talk to people much" and when I ask his best friend (who I'm good mates with) he says he doesn't speak of his feelings. But I would say I still 100% haven't got my closure either but go with a more confrontational approach (this is assuming you don't want him back, because its not the most flattering on you) Basically cut the small talk; say something that will make him reply (so you know his there) then just be like "whats your problem?!" he will be like huh? be like look I don't want to get back together I just have a few questions please respect me enough to give me these! say what you need to say and then hopefully you will get a flowing convo, but make sure you ask ALL questions in the one conversation because you don't no if you will get another chance! All comes down to the ego ! if you question their character there gonna response!0
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Force him to talk to you. Say that you need this to be able to move on, instead of making small talk next time simply dive straight into saying something along the lines of 'we need to talk'
If he refuses to talk to you about it from then on, don't accept his invites, don't bother to make small talk, delete his number if you still have it. Completely ignore him when you see him until he corners you and agrees to give you that talk.
I know how important it is to have that talk so if he's being a jerk and won't talk it out with you, do not speak to him ever again. You deserve much better than a guy who dances around uncomfortable topics.0
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