A few days ago Sarah and I broke up.
We are both 23 and were dating for 10 months.
Sarah broke up with me.
She broke up with me because I didn't make her a large enough part of my life (she was upset I didn't invite her out with my friends enough, she said she didn't meet my family enough, etc, etc). She thought because of this I talked bad on her and was hiding her from friends, whatever. In my opinion this is a really strange reason to break up with someone, but whatever. After we broke up she sent me a text saying I never cared about her and was seeing other people anyway. I never responded to this text, but I did care about her a lot and I was never unfaithful to her.
I felt like things were heading south recently so I was OK with the breakup. I told her I haven't been happy recently and I didn't think we should date anymore either. I wasn't exactly caught off guard because we had been fighting recently.
Although we only dated for 10 months she was by far my most serious girlfriend. We were not just bf/gf, but best friends, we did everything together. I was super close with her family and friends. We spent a lot of time together. At times we both thought we'd be together forever.
However, I'm not that upset we broke up.
And I can't figure out why.
A few months back (7 or 8 months in) I was just not happy in the relationship. I felt like Sarah was taking advantage of me, was rude to me and just walked all over me. My friends and family said they could see a change in my emotions and attitude and most people attributed to the way Sarah was treating me. I was pretty bummed and I broke up with her because of this.
That break up lasted a few days, but we got back together.
For whatever reason my feeling about her and the relationship following this first breakup were so much different. Before the first break up 7 or 8 months in, there would be days before that I'd be upset for hours over something super stupid, or I would wake up in the morning wondering where Sarah and I stood in our relationship. I told this to Sarah and she claimed she never felt the way I did.
But recently I never felt like this anymore.
Can't figure out the sudden change.
Anyway, this time around she broke up with me.
But I am not upset.
I see stuff she gave me lying around my room, but I don't get sad.
I see her email address all over my inbox, but it doesn't bother me.
I am not afraid to say I am an emotional guy, but I can't figure out why I'm not upset over this. Usually when I break up with a girl I can't function for a few days and then the pain slowly subsides. Right now it's kind of a whatever, I don't care, not that upset, kind of feeling.
Why do I feel like this?
I have dated girls for 10 weeks who I got upset over more than when Sarah just broke up with me.
In the back of my mind do I think we are getting back together?
Am I not upset because the first initial break up took out so much emotion from me?
I am just confused as to why I feel like I do.
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You sound near sociopathic and way too robotic for a serious relationship. I'm sorry, but you sound like an emotional retard to the core. Guys like that are annoying. A lot of guys think they're supposed to conceal emotion and act like that, but it's just a pain in the ass. When you're having a relationship with someone and they act like that, it feels as if your relationship's growth is being stunted. Get it together or you will always have women wanting to leave you because they want more or have found more.0
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