ok to me sex means love, to care for that person and to never leave their side, and to make that person feel special. For me sex DOES NOT MEAN: only for pleasure, just to have fun , or to be a slut, to me that's what sex is not for. Anyway I made love with my boyfriend two months ago, we broke up the last day of school and I was crushed, my grandma died, I needed his support, so I asked him to come over and he did, we talked a bit about my grandma, but it led to sex. and then he dumped me a week later. I cried hysterically, I felt like trash and I felt ugly, but the thing is he apologized, and he said he did not mean to use me for my body in a way, he thought of it as a mistake, and that's why I'm so depressed, I felt like he used me but he said he didn't, and he will always be there for me as a friend, but we don't talk anymore because I did something to him recently that ruined our friendship (go to my profile and read my other question then you will know what I did that ruined our friendship). and now just looking back on how he left me right after he made love to me really hurts me, and sex means that you should never stop loving that person, and that you should consider them special , that's what sex means to me, and I do still consider him special, and yes I do cry because he doesn't talk to me, should I wait for him and be in all this pain, is he worth it? or is he NOT WORTH IT, and I can do better? will I find someone eventually? someone who I truly deserve? :'( I'm in so much pain help...
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just because he had sex with you doesn't mean your soul belongs to him. that's what you need to remember. doesn't mean you guys will be together forever and ever. doesn't mean he's your destiny and it doesn't mean he should love you no matter what
you need to make better choices and this was a mistake you made that doesn't mean you ARE that mistake or that it's some huge irreversible mistake that you'll never recover from. it means you need to learn what you are meant to learn from this and not repeat it.
this is why kids shouldn't have sex because they over romanticize what it means and how special it's going to be and in reality it's rarely like that...that doesn't mean that now you've had sex that you should do it with the entire football team because it means nothing it means that this isn't romeo and juliet it's not the end of the world as you know it I know right now it sure seems like it is but in reality it's just really bad immature judgment on your part AND his because you're just kids.1