still think about my past crush and I want to get over him...but its proving difficult. he liked me too but due to complications we couldn't get together. I hadn't seen him for 5 years and recently bumped into him on Facebook. all those old feelings came back. in between those years of no contact I had several crushes but they weren't as intense as this one so I was able to forget about them quickly. I had never had a boyfriend however I know that he had a girlfriend which only lasted 2 months.
i don't want to get in contact with him which is for personal reasons but I can't help but feel that if he saw me again he would also have those feelings return. now I don't know for sure but I guess I convinced myself that he would.
because of this I keep holding on to him like we have a fairy tale love story, its pathetic I know that's why I want advice lol. I would like to find out how he felt about me to help me move on but I don't want to get in contact and I don't want to make it an option either. I just want to accept that its been a while and he has forgotten about me and moved on but I can't for some reason lol. I feel that hearing those words will help me move on in away I want closure.
so my question is how can I get closure without getting into contact with him. how can I convince myself to get over it.
please don't say keep yourself busy because that's what I did and when I saw him again all those feelings came back so I want to deal with my problems head on and not just cope with it, if that makes sense. I would really appreciate your feedback. thanks!
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I know the feeling. You have to convince yourself he doesn't want you. It's difficult because your mind tells you maybe there is a slight chance, but you need to convince yourself that it would never work.1