So my boyfriend doesn't like me going to parties because he worries that something bad will happen to me but I was mad at him the other night so I went out with my best friend. We went to a bonfire a friend of her boyfriend was having, Well we got introduced to everyone and after a while this really cute guy started talking to me from across the fire. He kept telling me to come sit by him and stuff and I wouldn't, he asked why I said because I have a boyfriend. Well a little while later he came and sat in my lap and was talking to me and was like "you have a nice smile" I was like "um thanks" then he was telling me I was really pretty and stuff and asking me why I had a boyfriend. Okay well long story short he was hugging me and asking me what I considered cheating on my boyfriend and all this stuff and saying "oh come on your boyfriend won't ever find out" Well he tried to kiss me and I turned my head. Well later we were in this bedroom (with like 3 other people) and sitting on a bed (again with 3 other people) and he kept trying to get me to lay down with him and I wouldn't, finally I did so he would shut up. Well he wrapped his arms around me and I basically just ignored it until he tried to kiss me again but I turned me face again and told him no. He kissed my cheek and I told him he needed to quit because I had a boyfriend. Then he just laid there and I finally thought he was gonna quit but he started kissing my neck and I told him to quit, then he started like biting my neck and my ear and stuff and I pushed him away and told him that was inappropriate and I had a boyfriend. Finally after that he quit. I felt horrible after it happened that I even let that happen. I told my boyfriend I went to a party and there was a guy who was flirting with me but I didn't tell him about him trying to kiss me or the neck thing.
So was it technically me cheating on my boyfriend since I didn't do anything or was it on the verge...? Also my boyfriends a very jealous guy so should I tell him about it or is it better left to be one of those things that I don't tell him about but never let happen again? Comments? Advice?
By the way I really do love my boyfriend it was one guy and one dumb mistake, I would go back and redo the whole night if I could. I feel awful about him and I really don't want to lose him over this...
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Not cheating. But, you sure hit the fine line. Hugging and kissing your neck to me may not be if you stopped it but, to someone that didn't want you to go in the first place? I think he would disagree.
Remember that some people consider flirting a form of cheating. And this was way beyond that. But, I know this type of person and there whole pick up is closing in and wearing you out by slowly assauting your defenses. Next time you see this guy he will be worse and continue to get worse till he gets you into bed or you call him out on personal space.
If your boyfriend is very jealous you shouldn't tell him because next time you go out he will brand you with this image. And a fight will break out and it will go badly. Mark it up for experience.
But, not cheating. =D