Break up advice, please help?

My ex broke up with me about 2 weeks ago she found some stuff on my computer while looking through my old email like an email sent last year during us broken up with a naked picture I sent to someone and a instant message I sent this past month to someone. Well she told my brother she left a letter for me at my apt and said she was done and had to walk away cause I needed help and she deserve better.

So I read the letter and it basically says that are intimacy sucks and she deserves someone who has the same desires as her and same passion and she can do a lot better than what I have to offer. She said there is something wrong with me and I need help and then she printed out what she found in my email and said it was over.

Now yes we have been dealing with intimacy problems throughout the relationship I have recently went to counseling to figure out what's going on and even sent an email to my ex girlfriend to apologize for everything and that I was getting help.

For the last 2 weeks I haven't heard anything from her I've tried to call once and no answer and I have texted a couple times to see how she was doing and to tell her she had mail at my apartment but nothing, its like she just disappeared.

We still have a cell phone bill together and have a loan out together so I want to figure out if she is gone for good or if she's ever going to come back but she is not talking to me I'm just confused and don't know what to do.

also we've been going out for 3 years but broken up a bunch of times throughout she said that we've had problems throughout.

Im trying to be a better man but I feel likes its too late because in her mind I feel like she has given up on the situation that's why she won't even call me


Most Helpful Girl

  • I feel that a lot of guys do flirt with other girls behind their significant other/ girlfriend's back. that's fine. you just need to work on yourself because that is all you can control at the moment.

    You get a chance to know someone to have that emotional connection with someone , obviously if they feel you aren't trustworthy then they don't feel like investing their energy into something they feel is going to fail in the long run.

    As a girl myself and having had that situation happen to me one time, I found it really hard to digest and accept. but you grow from it and the logical way to deal with it is to work on yourself, ask yourself what was the problem, in your case you know what it is, then prevent it from happening and understand why the girl left. that's the first step.


Most Helpful Guy

  • Don't entertain the "she's coming back" game. You are only setting yourself up for disappointment and setting yourself up for drawn out emotional baggage.

    Treat things like she's gone for good, because it sounds like she is. The only reasons you should be contacting her is to get the loan and cell phone situation handled.

    Use your time as a single, to work on yourself and iron out your intimacy issues. Don't wallow in self-pity, just consider this a lesson learned and correct the mistakes. Sometimes life sucks and throws you through awful situations, this is one of them.


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