I am still very affected by my ex. He said some things which didn't correspond to what would happen afterward. He wouldn't explain things. I am tired. And I want to move forward. I feel like I really need to talk with him. Now, he's ignoring me. How do I get him to give me the closure and explanation I deserve? And why is he being such an ass?
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Never wait for someone to give you closure, you need to do that yourself. Yes, you do deserve an explination from him but unfortunately we don't always get what we deserve.
Last year, my ex (who was my fiance at the time and we were living together) and I had a petty argument (very small and stupid) while we were out shopping and when we got home, he refused to speak to me, or even look at me. Later on in the evening he told me to pack my things, he wanted me out. I packed my things and was expecting him to drop me off at my mothers, he refused and just told me to get out. I had just given him all my money that day (he was very controlling and that was part of the reason why we had the argument) so I couldn't afford a taxi, he just wanted me out and didn't care where I went. Eventually he drove me and my stuff to my mothers house and took off without an explination. This all happened the night before my birthday!
In the car on the way to my mothers, I asked him why he was doing this and I deserved an explination and he refused to give me one and said "no you don't deserve an explination" I didn't hear from him for months after that. I knew that he wasn't going to give me any explination so I just learned to move on without one. Accepting that I was never going to get an explination was the best thing I could have done for myself and I was able to move on completely.
He then contacted me a few months later, giving me my explination (that he had controll issues -well I could have told him that!) and wanting me back. I had moved on, and couldn't care less about his stupid explination.
I had loved this guy more than I have ever loved anyone that I have had a relationship with in the past, but I found it much easier to get over him than any other relationship because I decided not to wait for him to give me closure, but to give myself closure instead. I simply thought to myself "I am done with you, I don't care what your reasons for ending it are. I want nothing to do with someone who is capable of hurting me so much" then focused on myself and my friends.0