In all your relationships after your first breakup, do you let people into your heart like you did in your first relationship (or the first time you've invested a lot in someone and it didn't work out)?
I try to enjoy the current relationship but I know that even if I don't see signs that he's not interested in me, part of me knows that he might just up and leave one day and move on quickly with some other girl, treating her exactly the way he treated me, or maybe even better.
I'm just more guarded and it's not really a happy feeling. Somewhere I'm feeling, 'he looks like he's into me, but he might be just playing along. and I shouldn't be surprised if he just ditches me'
It's really cynical, I know. but I can't seem to get out of that kind of thinking.
(This of course applies to both guys and gals.)
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I wouldn't say it was after my first breakup... I dated this guy a few years ago. I felt like we had this amazing connection and I'd never experienced so much passion in a relationship before... I was so into him that I overlooked a lot of his faults. Anyway, when it ended - I was devastated... and I wasn't even in love with him - thank goodness. As a result, I don't trust people like I used too. I am far more cynical and I guess I'm afraid of being in another relationship. It's been four years and I haven't let my guard down since... but I guess I am kind of getting to that point where I want a relationship again so hopefully I'm getting over it finally.0