On April 9th, my ex cheated on me with her at-the-time ex boyfriend while she was out of the city. I was devastated for a month or two and slowly started to get back on my feet.
I am currently on my feet, however, I find it so hard to connect with women again. I mean, really. I'm at the point where I just feel this unreasonable amount of anger and distaste for most women. I try to talk to them, to become serious with them, but when they start showing interest in me, I just back off.
One reason I think I do this is out of fear of being cheated on again. I am just afraid that if I date somebody else, I won't be able to trust them because from my experience, women will cheat if they are unhappy with a certain aspect of the relationship.
I don't miss my ex in the least. Sure, she was nice and a sweetheart occasionally, but for the most part she was a very terrible person who treated me and my entire family like an object.
I don't know what to do. I have been going to the gym and have been feeling better about myself, I have been getting good grades in college, but for some reason I seem to be carrying this baggage and I need to get over it, but I don't know how.
I've slept with different girls since the break up, but that seems to be the only type of relationship that I can cultivate with anybody - a f*ck and chuck or a one night stand. I guess I just want to have a woman who truly, deeply loves me, but I don't know where to look and I feel lost.
Help please. Anybody.
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I have to say, I know exactly how you feel. My Ex-boyfriend of two years cheated on me with some random bar girl. I didn't find out about this until a couple months after we broke-up, but after I found out I could barely breathe. It been two years now since we broke up and to be honest I still struggle with it. I've had my fair share of hook-ups but once it gets serious, I run the other way. With all this said, deep down inside I know there's someone out there. I'm one of those cheesy people that belives everyone has someone out there for them, you just gotta plow through some ugly stuff before you find them. When you find them, you'll feel it. It'll be when the time is right, and you'll just know :)0