How do you get over your first love? I've tried to it's just hard.
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i've only just got over my first love and I'll still always care about and miss him that's something you have to accept.
the only two ways that ACTUALLY work are
acceptance - accepting the relationship is over and he's never coming back (no games like no contact, or turning up at places he will be etc) all this makes it worse, think of it like a death you accept the fact he's gone, mourn him and then you'll be free to move on, I can't stress enough how important this is.
time, I know it sucks but time is a healer, and eventually you WILL get over this.
in the meantime they are lots of methods to soften the blow
going out with friends
hanging out with other guys (not exactly dating but realising there's other amazing guys out there helps)
music, sad, happy, goofy (let all your emotions out)
talk (I tell you this from experience the more you talk about it its kind of self soothing and EVENTUALLY you will realize that you deserve better.
make overs, reinventing yourself really works, new haircut, clothes etc looking hot in the process always helps.
exercise, releases endorphins which make you happy, as does chocolate
but remember this...you think he is the one, and you'll never find another that will compare, if he was the one why would he leave you or hurt you like this? answer being he wouldn't. He is just preparing you for something better that's waiting around the corner, so keep smiling things will get better