my ex has been constantly affecting my mental and emotional well being since 2 years ago. I should have put a stop to it then but my mistake was letting myself be carried along. I was diagnosed with depression but I kept quiet about it to most people. now its getting to a state where even as acquaintances our r/s is strained because of trust issues and her not wanting to confront me before jumping to conclusions and getting mad and insulting me about things I'm unaware of. I guess I just needed her around because when things were good I was really happy. but as I'm growing I realize I can't continue with this no matter how empty my life is going to feel without her in it.
I've just been thinking about my life here and how I have nobody to turn to and I was thinking maybe I need a change of environment and perspective. I've had too much bad history and memories here and maybe moving away and starting anew may do me good. do you think its a good idea or am I just running away?
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i can relate I was in the same boat, but I didn't move away even though I had the money at the time, now I don't have the money. moving away is a great idea, just being away from her, and not being able to see her will allow the walls in your mind to come down, the world is a big place and there are many people to meet, however sometimes, as in your case, and mine we end up getting trapped in a particular, negative way of thinking and behaving. My advice is move away, for at least 6 months, it will give you a chance to change things up. like the saying says, "if nothing changes, nothing changes". A change, such as moving will make a positive difference. if you can afford it, do it. Remember, you can always return, you are not running, you are simply changing strategies, sometimes that is smart. good luck.1